I honestly can date people who I don't find good-looking. I'm attracted to them sexually, but I am also aware that they are not handsome.
I never thought of that distinction very much until recently, but there it is. I think it's a beauty-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder kind of effect. On the other hand, I have a very good-looking male friend who I am not sexually attracted to at all. Don't know why. Just is.
I must not be normal. Perhaps I should start a post about it, but I don't really care. :)
I also agree with you that there are secondary preferences for dating, such as looks, that people often do not voice so they don't seem shallow. I am not trying to seem superior to others here. Honest to goodness, the only 'dealbreakers' I seem to have are notably poor hygiene, racism, sexism, and homophobia. Otherwise it's pretty much anyone's game. If someone asks me out, I'll go on at least three dates, to give myself time to develop an attraction (or lose one). If I ask someone out, same applies. Within that time, my attraction to them strengthens, wanes, or sometimes forms out of the blue - like when I go out with someone I don't find attractive because I give them a chance anyway, and viola! Sometimes I end up being attracted to them. Sometimes not.
I'm straight but I went on three dates with a girl for this very reason. I was already very comfortable and confident in my heterosexuality, but just because she asked me out I said yes. (I didn't lead her on - I mentioned that I was comfortably hetero, but was open-minded and thought I might surprise myself. She was cool with that.)
I think it's because I'm a very emotional person. If I feel an emotional or intellectual connection, it really will outweigh virtually anything else.
Well I have to say based on how well written your reply was I can sort of believe you. It does seem like you're a very emotional person and that's important to you. Kudos on being aware that you might've lead this girl on and didn't. I have to admit, I can't say that I've heard of someone like you.
I have not to be honest. However, I've heard plenty of people claim that to them looks don't matter and this I don't believe. But you seem to be different.
Is it normal that I'm only attracted to intelligent women?
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I honestly can date people who I don't find good-looking. I'm attracted to them sexually, but I am also aware that they are not handsome.
I never thought of that distinction very much until recently, but there it is. I think it's a beauty-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder kind of effect. On the other hand, I have a very good-looking male friend who I am not sexually attracted to at all. Don't know why. Just is.
I must not be normal. Perhaps I should start a post about it, but I don't really care. :)
I also agree with you that there are secondary preferences for dating, such as looks, that people often do not voice so they don't seem shallow. I am not trying to seem superior to others here. Honest to goodness, the only 'dealbreakers' I seem to have are notably poor hygiene, racism, sexism, and homophobia. Otherwise it's pretty much anyone's game. If someone asks me out, I'll go on at least three dates, to give myself time to develop an attraction (or lose one). If I ask someone out, same applies. Within that time, my attraction to them strengthens, wanes, or sometimes forms out of the blue - like when I go out with someone I don't find attractive because I give them a chance anyway, and viola! Sometimes I end up being attracted to them. Sometimes not.
I'm straight but I went on three dates with a girl for this very reason. I was already very comfortable and confident in my heterosexuality, but just because she asked me out I said yes. (I didn't lead her on - I mentioned that I was comfortably hetero, but was open-minded and thought I might surprise myself. She was cool with that.)
I think it's because I'm a very emotional person. If I feel an emotional or intellectual connection, it really will outweigh virtually anything else.
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Well I have to say based on how well written your reply was I can sort of believe you. It does seem like you're a very emotional person and that's important to you. Kudos on being aware that you might've lead this girl on and didn't. I have to admit, I can't say that I've heard of someone like you.
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Thanks, although I am concerned that you've never heard of anyone else like me . . . :)
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I have not to be honest. However, I've heard plenty of people claim that to them looks don't matter and this I don't believe. But you seem to be different.