Okay. I'm not blaming you for anything. It may be irrational, but if you can't control it then I guess that's the way it has to be. Just be open-minded - let's say a guy who isn't Asian romantically approaches you with simple conversation. Try not to automatically think, "nope, not gonna work". Talk a bit, you never know if this guy could end up being crazy amazing for you even if you can't see it at the time.
Like who you like, but try not to close the rest of the world off. :)
I'll be friends with non-Asian guys, obviously, I have loads of guys who are friends who are non-Asian, but I just couldn't imagine dating any of them... There would always be something missing :/
That is what I'm saying - just because you "couldn't imagine dating any of them" doesn't mean they aren't a good match for you. Don't let your bias's cloud your judment.
You having Asperger's is irrelevant - you're human with or without it. But the sentence that you said that worries me is that you don't see the point. What that tells me is that physical attraction is all that matter to you. Again, you won't be dating that person's race - you'll be dating that person's personality. Realize that - you can have preferances and still give others a chance.
It's not all that matters, no. But physical attraction DOES matter and is important in getting the relationship to work. I wouldn't date a girl, because I'm not attracted to girls, even though their personalities might match mine. Same as I can't date a guy who I don't find attractive. I wouldn't even be comfortable getting close with a guy I didn't like in that way...
Gender is different. That's a literal sexuality. Physical attraction matters, of course, but unless it's all-encompassing to you, then it's very close-minded to say you can only date one race. That's as if you're saying every single male who isn't Asian couldn't possibly be attractive to you. I can almost guarantee that isn't the case, unless you've somehow have seen every white, black, hispanic, etc guy ever.
But whatever - this is conversation is 10 months old as is and isn't going anyway. Do what you wish.
IIN that I'm only attracted to Asian guys?
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Okay. I'm not blaming you for anything. It may be irrational, but if you can't control it then I guess that's the way it has to be. Just be open-minded - let's say a guy who isn't Asian romantically approaches you with simple conversation. Try not to automatically think, "nope, not gonna work". Talk a bit, you never know if this guy could end up being crazy amazing for you even if you can't see it at the time.
Like who you like, but try not to close the rest of the world off. :)
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I'll be friends with non-Asian guys, obviously, I have loads of guys who are friends who are non-Asian, but I just couldn't imagine dating any of them... There would always be something missing :/
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also I wouldn't go out with someone if I'm not attracted to them, I don't see the point. I also have Asperger's
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That is what I'm saying - just because you "couldn't imagine dating any of them" doesn't mean they aren't a good match for you. Don't let your bias's cloud your judment.
You having Asperger's is irrelevant - you're human with or without it. But the sentence that you said that worries me is that you don't see the point. What that tells me is that physical attraction is all that matter to you. Again, you won't be dating that person's race - you'll be dating that person's personality. Realize that - you can have preferances and still give others a chance.
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It's not all that matters, no. But physical attraction DOES matter and is important in getting the relationship to work. I wouldn't date a girl, because I'm not attracted to girls, even though their personalities might match mine. Same as I can't date a guy who I don't find attractive. I wouldn't even be comfortable getting close with a guy I didn't like in that way...
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Gender is different. That's a literal sexuality. Physical attraction matters, of course, but unless it's all-encompassing to you, then it's very close-minded to say you can only date one race. That's as if you're saying every single male who isn't Asian couldn't possibly be attractive to you. I can almost guarantee that isn't the case, unless you've somehow have seen every white, black, hispanic, etc guy ever.
But whatever - this is conversation is 10 months old as is and isn't going anyway. Do what you wish.
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I am saying that - I literally can't be attracted to a guy if he's not Asian