Is it normal that i'm not bothered by meanness?

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Well, i grew up around a lot of mean people, so meanness just doesn't bother me. Certain family members were mean and a great many of the children i grew up with were mean.

Therefore, I am now comfortable around mean people and i seem to the only one who is not offended by such people. Some are bullies, some are antisocial, some are jokers and some are just being honest. No matter who they or what their reasons are for vulgarity, it seems
that i alone make an effort to understand each and every mean person i encounter and find empathy for them.

They are my friends, my family, my extended family. They surround me and i love them, while everyone else cannot seem to put aside their fear and insecurities enough to appreciate these people (the mean jokers are an exception.)

They don't scare me, mean jokes are the funniest and the world could use more brute honesty. Let's all grow some balls and quit walking on eggshells around one another. Let meanness live. Love you.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I have empathy for all people, but that doesn't mean I'm okay with people being mean and hurtful to one another. Why do it at all? Why do you want to put that negative energy out into the world? If every action we take can either lift someone up or shoot them down, why not all just help each other, pay it forward, and share the wealth of our species rather than trying to hurt one another all the time? It's not a matter of growing a backbone, it's a matter of growing as a person. Negativity will only weigh you down in the end, and people are usually mean to cover up their own insecurities. We can all find more healthy ways to deal with our problems.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You are very right. This is exactly why i think we should not just dismiss the mean people as assholes to be avoided. They do have insecurities and they need companionship just like everyone else. It's hard to get past their wall of negativity sometimes to see that they are actually a good person, or that they are actually being helpful (in the case of tough love), our that they just need help. And while these mean people are simply defending their insecurities, much of the rest of the world are simply avoiding their own insecurities when they dismiss the mean people. And the problem only gets worse when we become resentful toward them.

      I didn't realize how multifaceted this issue was because there really is a lot of anger and meanness in the world. I don't think anyone should tolerate abuse or manipulation and i'm not trying to promote bullying or anything. I am just totally against anyone being singled out and made to feel like a lesser person, whether it be the mean person or the person receiving the meanness.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        I really like the way you think. :)

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    People like you are one of the reasons the world is the way it is.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      How is the world?

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      • Devyn
        11 years ago

        The world is letting people do mean things on a national scale as opposed to a play ground scale.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Woah, i'm not a person like that. I hang around mean people, but i try to encourage respect of others when i can. There is mean, but then there is evil. Everyone who is mean is certainly not evil, though some are.

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          • Devyn
            11 years ago

            I don't think he meant you personally, just the general attitude of not caring about people doing mean things.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Some people weren't brought up to have thick skin so quickly. However, it sounds like the form of meanness you're talking about is joking or playful. They're your family so you know that they love you, but others were treated badly by people they didn't even know, people who weren't their family. Good for you that you're desensitized to bullies but it seems like you were just being taunted by the right people, not some random kid from school who didn't even know you. Does that make sense?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      That's the thing. I was targeted by family, step family and people from school. The school kids bothered me the worst (aside from one of my moms boyfriends). They would leave me isolated, take my friends, exclude me, call me names. Trust me, i got plenty of it. There was at least one person every school year who m made me extremely uncomfortable and this didn't stop until high school. Then there was a rude girl who we were friends with and everyone talked bad about her except me. She would say the most insulting thing she could think of to everyone, but not in a funny way. Anyway, i found it a bit funny that that was her personality so we got along pretty well. I guess by that time i learned to not take things so seriously

      It's just that meanness is part of this world, whetherwe like it or not. I don't think it should be feared, so that now the mean people are isolated the way i was when i was a child.

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      • Anime7
        11 years ago

        Then it sounds like you're bothered by people being mean to you. If anything you've just accepted that people being mean is a part of this world.

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    Depends what kind of meanness. Being "mean" in self defense is different and more acceptable. But I can't stand people who hate others for their appearance, or their race, nationality, sexual orientation...or because they're "different" in some way. There's just no sense in it.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    We can be friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You were one of the first people i noticed here. I think we'd get along just fine :)

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      • Justsomejerk
        11 years ago

        We've both been thumbed down. I wonder who you are now.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    It doesn't bother me either. If it did i'd hate myself and that's just not happenin.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      If you hated yourself i would still love you.

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        :D yay!

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  • Hhhhhhhh
    10 years ago

    I thought this said "iin that I'm not bothered by memes"

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  • Hippie
    11 years ago

    Mean, nice. Chaos, harmony. Rude, prude. Radical, reserved. Live and let live . Coexist. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    If the person isn't someone I care about, then yes I'm with you; they can be as immature as they want and I'll just smile and laugh.

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    I like you! And I hate everyone normally.

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  • LilyAmongTheThorns
    11 years ago

    Meanness doesn't really bother me. I shrug off just about anything. But that doesn't mean I really like it. Of course, it depends on what kind of "meanness" you're talking about.

    Someone going "dude, your breath is rank, brush that shit" or "ew, seriously that dress makes you look like a whale" is one kind of meanness that I don't mind that much.

    Someone going "you're nothing but a pathetic wetback parasite" and genuinely meaning it (not in a joking way) is a kind of meanness that I *do* mind.

    Usually if someone is being mean to a friend I get a lot more upset than if they are mean to me. If someone is mean to my sister I completely lose it. I guess it's all relative.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I grew up in a depressing/mean environment. Uncalled for Viciousness from some family members and from some "acquaintances". When I was younger I'd cry when people hurt my feelings and I was told that I needed to develop a thick skin, but to some extent I never did. I'm still a sensitive person and I'm not very fond of negative people. I used to have theory that Bullies were only cowards, but from recent news reports it doesn't entirely seem to be the case. I'm probably starting to drive away from the main subject... Anyway, sometimes when people are mean to me I feel like I deserve it and their behavior towards me is my fault. There are times where I try not to let it get to me and once I'm alone I'll cry about it. And other times, I become numb to the situation. The words bounce off me like a baseball flying at a mattress. Of course, there's a hard impact but it gets "cushioned" and bounces off.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    11 years ago

    I couldn't agree more. I have a high tolerance for that kind of thing.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    I am, to some extent. I don't think it shows much character. I don't care for that type of behavior. Some of my friends are assholes, but only to other assholes. They don't just do it for shits and giggles, there is often a reason. People who are just sour in general and always negative confuse me.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I guess I'm sort of the same. A lot of the people I know say things which could be seen as mean by others who don't get it. But I don't think it's mean, mainly because it's not supposed to be. I don't like the idea of living in a world where people were genuinely mean to each other. I also like honesty, but I'd never force it on someone else, because some people hate it.

    I do think that a lot of things are mean, and there are ways to offend me. It's just that some things, such as certain words, offend others but I don't see the harm. I think a lot of people are like that. At least where I am.

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