Is it normal that i'm like this

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I've been dating my boyfriend (LDR) for three years. A few months ago, I met this guy that I wanted to become friends with that I also thought was objectively attractive. I gave this guy my number, hung out with him and slept with him. I've cheated on my boyfriend twice now. I would absolutely do it again. The problem is, I'm developing feelings for this guy I've been cheating with. I tried to tell him and it just ended in an anxiety filled rant. I feel awful for doing this to my boyfriend, because I really do love him. I don't want to break up with him. I can't figure out if I just want the affection from this guy because he's here and my boyfriend lives far from me, or if I actually really care about him. I don't know if i should just suck it up since he's not interested in me more than likely or if I should tell my boyfriend and actually try and go for this guy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    “If you think you’re in love with two people, pick the second one, because if you truly loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second” or something along those lines.

    You’re shit for cheating on him to begin with, so personally I hope you get neither guy. And if he will cheat with you he will cheat on you.

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    If you "really do love" your boyfriend stop risking losing him! Cheating is bad for a relationship whether or not the cheated on person ever finds out because you are keeping something important from someone you love and that creates an undercurrent of dishonesty and secrecy which affects you too.

    If you can't deal with not getting enough sex in a long distance relationship, end it or enhance your existing relationship with phone sex, fantasy and anything else you can think of.

    Unless your existing relationship is an open one, stop having sex with anyone else, that can't end well.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Why yes it's normal to be a dirt bag cheating bitch.

    Also why is LDR in parenthesis? You dating Lana Del Rey?

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Summertime Sadness!

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Excellent song. From the best album too.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I meant as in long distance relationship.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Okay thanks for clarifying that useless part of the post.....

        No quit cheating you piece of fucking shit scumbag! Cheating is absolutely horrible and I surely hope someone burns you really bad sometime so you know what its like to get back slapped and treated like a joke in a relationship.

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        • DIO
          4 years ago

          Don't you have multiple girlfriends yourself?

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            One open relationship and one friend with benefits. For the FWB, I asked her if she was okay If I fucked another girl and she said sure. Other one it was literally her idea to have an open relationship and she tells me all about her sex with this other guy....

            But other than THAT I technically do have at least 2 right now so I guess I'm not being any less of a bad person than OP.

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  • Manimaltheanimal
    4 years ago

    To be perfectly honest, its women like you that have caused me to unilaterally hate all women. Always, keeping a secret guy on the back burner in case you get bored. I hope you get an incurable STD. Somehow other people can be loyal and not cheat. Go ahead and give being an honest person a try.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    Why is the boyfriend so far away? If he's in the military I'd say no. But personally what I would do is keep smashing the side piece and not tell the boyfriend. I wouldn't develope feelings for the side piece tho and if I started I'd cut the side piece off. Thats just from my perspective tho and what I'd do.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    So the cheater is falling in love with the person helping her cheat. Sounds about right. If you really want to keep your real boyfriend, then tell him you cheated on him. Perhaps he'll forgive you.

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  • Iszzy123
    4 years ago

    It’s normal to be selfish to want more then you should have it normal to abuse someone love and trust , it’s normal to not come clean
    It’s normal to feel guilty about what ur doing,
    And finally it normal to think all of this is just sad

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    • Manimaltheanimal
      4 years ago

      I dont think any of that is normal. I guess it's a true sign of how bad things have gotten.
      It reminds me of that tool song from the opiate ep.

      Someone told me once
      That there's a right and wrong,
      And that punishment
      Would come to those
      Who dare to cross the line.
      But it must not be true
      For jerk-offs like you.
      Maybe it takes longer to catch a total asshole.
      But I'm tired of waiting.
      Maybe it's just bullshit and I should play God,
      And shoot you myself.
      Because I'm tired of waiting.
      Consequences dictate
      Our course of action
      And it doesn't matter what's right.
      It's only wrong if you get caught.
      If consequences dictate
      My course of action
      I should play God
      And shoot you myself.
      I'm very tired of waiting.
      I should
      Kick you,
      Beat you,
      Fuck you,
      And then shoot you in your fucking head

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    Well, you kind of brought this on yourself didn't you?
    You should leave your boyfriend before hurting him even more.

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