Is it normal that i'm like this?

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I have a friend who is basically the perfect friend. I can trust him, he's normal, he's nice, he's supportive, we'd do anything for each other. We enjoy the same things. I have no complaints about the guy.

Problem is me, I guess I'm a shit friend. Even thought I'd never betray him and I'd do anything for him as he'd do for me if we were in need, I have mental problems that prevent me from being social like he is. My problems prevent me from even being available at all anymore. I have real big problems.

I feel awful because of it but I can't help it. You can't even imagine how awful I feel. I feel like the scum of the earth.

Most of the time when he calls or texts I ignore him because of my anxiety and my aversion to banter and being social.

I hate myself for doing this but no matter how much I hate myself for it I can't help it at all!! I have no reason to ignore him except for my own mental problems, but yet he has to feel the pain of MY problem. And I can't even tell him because I know he wouldn't understand because I know he has no mental problems, I'm sure of it, and he's very social and friendly and outgoing.

is it normal to feel so terrible about doing this to a good friend but at the same time can't help it due to mental problems??

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    You could discuss your social anxiety with a doctor who may be able to help.

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  • EnigmaT21
    7 years ago

    if he really knows you and he's still your friend is perfectly normal, you sound like a really good friend to me, someone who is not really social but who cares about his friends is like... a good person? idk this question is like stupid to me, just be friends and take care of each other

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  • Short&2thepoint
    11 years ago

    Well, he's obviously still your friend, so no need to worry is there?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Your friend is probably aware that you are quite introverted (introversion tends to be obvious to others) and still happens to be your friend, so he's most likely fine with it.

    I think most social butterflies like their introverted friends just as much as they do their friends who are the same as them (socially).

    Keep trying to show that you care about your friendship with him in ways that are comfortable for you.

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