We've actually commenced the adoption process. The problem over here (Australia)is that it is so expensive and takes up to seven years so, as a result, it is so rare. As it takes so long, you never get a baby or even an infant; instead, you get a school-aged child. I have never met anyone of our generation in this country with an adopted child. We have a generous sole-parent pension so Australian mums NEVER give up their children, and abortion has been legal since I was a baby myself and can even be free for people with low incomes. Hence, unwanted pregnancies going to full term are very, very rare. As a result, adopted children in Australia are always from third-world countries. It's the hardest country in the world to adopt in which is why Hugh Jackman and his wife had to adopt in the US even though they originally wanted to do it at home. I saw a 19 yo boy (George Dennehy) on TV, found in a Romanian orphanage with no arms at the age of 12 months, and he eventually taught himself to play the guitar proficiently with his feet. We were so heartwarmed that we have also decided to adopt a physically disabled child. (Fortunately, we can afford a nanny or two to help.) So that ball is in motion. Another problem: it is illegal over here for the mum to more than 45 years older than the adopted child, and illegal for the mum to be over 50. That will mean that by the time we get our child, I could be as old as 53, and the adoption will be canceled. But we're trying anyway. You never know your luck. At the end of the day, if we're unlucky, at least I have my adult son, who my husband loves, and we have each other which is more than enough. We don't need a child to make us complete but we have a lot of love to give so it would be nice.
That is horrible. I think children want to be adopted the fact it is so impossible for someone who clearly can not have and wants one is sad. These children grow up not having parents who love them. The fact someone wants one and is not able is ridiculous and is not good for the child. Instead of paying money to open an orphanage they should be paying to try and adopt the kids off. That is just wrong.
Is it normal that I'm letting my husband do IVF with his ex?
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We've actually commenced the adoption process. The problem over here (Australia)is that it is so expensive and takes up to seven years so, as a result, it is so rare. As it takes so long, you never get a baby or even an infant; instead, you get a school-aged child. I have never met anyone of our generation in this country with an adopted child. We have a generous sole-parent pension so Australian mums NEVER give up their children, and abortion has been legal since I was a baby myself and can even be free for people with low incomes. Hence, unwanted pregnancies going to full term are very, very rare. As a result, adopted children in Australia are always from third-world countries. It's the hardest country in the world to adopt in which is why Hugh Jackman and his wife had to adopt in the US even though they originally wanted to do it at home. I saw a 19 yo boy (George Dennehy) on TV, found in a Romanian orphanage with no arms at the age of 12 months, and he eventually taught himself to play the guitar proficiently with his feet. We were so heartwarmed that we have also decided to adopt a physically disabled child. (Fortunately, we can afford a nanny or two to help.) So that ball is in motion. Another problem: it is illegal over here for the mum to more than 45 years older than the adopted child, and illegal for the mum to be over 50. That will mean that by the time we get our child, I could be as old as 53, and the adoption will be canceled. But we're trying anyway. You never know your luck. At the end of the day, if we're unlucky, at least I have my adult son, who my husband loves, and we have each other which is more than enough. We don't need a child to make us complete but we have a lot of love to give so it would be nice.
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That is horrible. I think children want to be adopted the fact it is so impossible for someone who clearly can not have and wants one is sad. These children grow up not having parents who love them. The fact someone wants one and is not able is ridiculous and is not good for the child. Instead of paying money to open an orphanage they should be paying to try and adopt the kids off. That is just wrong.