Billy Joel has the best advice here. You may be crazy. You may be wrong but you may be right.
The yardstick is this: anything appropriate for someone in a relationship to do, is something they would have no problem doing with their partner sitting right beside them. If your BF and his ex are not doing anything wrong, there should be no problem.
I think the only way to really know is to spend some time with them together. You will know very quickly whether or not their body language is stiff and forced, which means they're not comfortable being their usual selves around you, or if they're too cosy and casual.
In either case, let him know it's not on. If they feel their relationship (as in the way they usually act around each other) is something that would make you uncomfortable, then they tacitly acknowledge that it's inappropriate. It should therefore end.
If they're all over each other and might as well be dry-humping, then it's irrelevant if they're comfortable doing it in front of you. It's beyond the pale.
If neither of those things appear to be the case, then you might not be getting cheated on, but I think eventually there will come a time when she's drunk, single and horny, and things may well end in tears.
Nobody tolerates a close relationship between a partner and their ex. I wouldn't. They have seen each other naked and sweating. He should understand that no woman can be expected to simply accept that his ex has an (presumably non-sxually) intimate relationship with him.
Is it normal that I'm jealous of his ex?
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Billy Joel has the best advice here. You may be crazy. You may be wrong but you may be right.
The yardstick is this: anything appropriate for someone in a relationship to do, is something they would have no problem doing with their partner sitting right beside them. If your BF and his ex are not doing anything wrong, there should be no problem.
I think the only way to really know is to spend some time with them together. You will know very quickly whether or not their body language is stiff and forced, which means they're not comfortable being their usual selves around you, or if they're too cosy and casual.
In either case, let him know it's not on. If they feel their relationship (as in the way they usually act around each other) is something that would make you uncomfortable, then they tacitly acknowledge that it's inappropriate. It should therefore end.
If they're all over each other and might as well be dry-humping, then it's irrelevant if they're comfortable doing it in front of you. It's beyond the pale.
If neither of those things appear to be the case, then you might not be getting cheated on, but I think eventually there will come a time when she's drunk, single and horny, and things may well end in tears.
Nobody tolerates a close relationship between a partner and their ex. I wouldn't. They have seen each other naked and sweating. He should understand that no woman can be expected to simply accept that his ex has an (presumably non-sxually) intimate relationship with him.