Is it normal that i'm incapable of feeling jealous?

It'd be nice if nobody in the world was jealous, there would be so much less drama lol

ha wow you really do seem like you just dont give two and the jealousy thing wish i had it!

Actually of course we haven't been married since we were 16, just have been a couple since then. We actually got married after being together for 10 years. We waited so long because we were kinda thinking "this can't be my spouse to be, he/she is one of my first bfs/gfs. That just doesn't happen!". But after a decade it became obvious. We are now going on 5 years of marriage.

Oh, and while I don't read fiction I think it's kinda funny that I gather about 50% of my understanding of jealousy from characters in movies and sitcoms.

Very. To me "mine" and "yours" are apples and oranges that have no relation to eachother whatsoever, and have no obvious reasons for being compared.

And yes you are very right in guessing that my nature is non-confrontational aswell, although I actually don't get how you tie the two together, I'm curious of how you got that. I'm not afraid of confrontation when I deduce that a situation will benefit from it, but I just find that it almost always never does. I find that I get so much farther influencing peoples loyalty than their opposition. That's also something that has always boggled me about naturally confrontational people, I've always wondered how they fail to notice how their attitude negatively impacts their goals, yet they're always so quick to react the same way for every situation. I mean when does the learning process start to kick in? Sorry, I digress.

I actually have the exact same problem. It really becomes noticeable in relationships and surprisingly when reading works of fiction. I'm not kidding I would be reading someones fanfic draft making notes on their characterizations and then I would run into that one 'jealous' character there to move the story along. I would spend an ungodly amount of time trying to wrap my head around it because I just couldn't see anyone reacting like that and it just confused the heck out of me.
Anyways I think this is a personality thing either a) we like to avoid confrontation or b) the way we subconsciously compare ourselves to other people may be slightly different.~or in simpler terms we don't automatically see ourselves as having lost anything by someone being better off or wanting what's 'ours', the us and them categories stay completely separate and don't touch.
Maybe... is any of this sounding familiar?

I can honestly say that I don't feel a "negative" emotion when it comes to those things either. The closest that I can come up with is sorta like "cool! I wonder how I can get in on that too". I can tell it's not the same as what others feel though cause most people describe it as a shitty feeling. I could however picture feeling pissed if someone used foul play to aquire something that was intended for me, but I wouldn't call it a different emotion aside from just being pissed for a legitamte reason (Not sure if I made that very understandable).

Yeah, this was a long post. Maybe if you uses paragraphs it would be easier to read.

It sounds like you and your wife trust each other and have an open relationship. This is not a bad thing. But what about other causes of jealousy? i.e. people with better jobs, more money, better "stuff"?

I have the same problem. Except, I don't think it is a problem at all. It is a very rare and valuable trait. I haven't had a lot of luck, money or the regular things everyone has, and being able to overcome jealousy helps that a lot. It's a strength that can be easily achieved through acceptance. You accept what you are and what you have and simply just do not have the desire to be like anyone else or have what anyone else has. By doing this, you are also allowing the people around you (your wife) to be who they want to be without fear of offending you. Jealousy is normal, but it is not good and you should be thankful you have overcome it, and continue to live that way. I know that's what I do.

I don't "hate" anybody because of what they have. It doesn't seem logical to me. The good fortune of others in fact makes me quite happy. I've got mine, you've got yours. I've got it good and I hope you do too. I look at myself when deciding whether I'm satisfied, not at other people to try and compare. When I see someone who has something that I don't it doesn't make me unsatisfied with myself either. Fear, I definately experience and understand. There's a good logical reason for fear in some situations, but not all. Jealousy on the otherhand I don't see the reasons for quite so clearly. Oh and I think you have "senses" confused with "emotions", like touch, see, hear, taste, vs sad, happy, angry etc. Don't worry, it happens to us all.

Comment people! :P

Oh and another thing that a different post reminded me of, when my wife expressed that she had in interest in stripping I totally supported it. I'd go to the clubs and hang out while shooting the shit with her coworkers and get all excited when she got a fat tip from a lap dance. I even let her do porn. Mostly girl/girl stuf though cause again, I don't want to seem to weird in front of the producer and other adult stars cause they all know I'm her husband. Then again for them it isn't all that weird. I like them for that :) I mean really, what's the big issue?? We all have loads of fun and make a ton of money. That's why I've never understood jealousy at all. I would think that it should seem so obviously irrational to most, but instead it's the complete opposite and people think I'm weird! My wife ain't going anywhere! Why not have some fun in this dull existance and save ourselves a bunch of drama to stress off of at the same time??