About half the lesbians I've known were married or in relationships with male assholes before they came out. I have wondered if it was some kind of subconscious self-sabotaging thing. They felt social or familial pressures to be straight, so they picked the most obnoxious guy they came across. After being miserable with him for a while, they could more easily justify to themselves the feelings they'd always had for other women.
Yeah I was utterly heart broken and I'll always have the wound to some degree but since telling her I was able to let her go finally since I used to hold onto hope.
False hope obviously :/
Well idk, I really don't think she'll have second thoughts as when we were friends, I was lucky if I got to hang with her since she didn't dedicate much time to me. I felt like I meant nothing to her, even as a friend which hurt even more. We were close though, we would share amazing hugs (long embraceful ones ), she would often say she loves me heaps. I believe we shared a "moment" on the beach one day years ago. We were high & with a group of friends.
I was checking out everyone's eye color and noticing how much stronger in color they'd become. When I looked into hers,it felt different, as cheesy as it sounds it's like time stood still for a while and we were just gazing into each others eyes. I felt something that day! Years later when we had a fall out then reconnected, she said that day on the beach it's like we had a connection and it's like we interconnected. Then she said :
"Kinda sounds like romance".
That day forward, I had high hopes she felt a romantic one like myself.
I don't know why women would feel pressured into being straight in today's age though? LGBT has become more socially accepted..?
I don't think the eye-gazing thing sounds cheesy at all.
Looking deeply into someone's eyes can produce powerful feelings, and it's risky in a situation like the one you describe. Sad that it didn't work out, even though she apparently did feel some connection.
I don't know much about your situation, but you do hear stories about people finally realizing they belong together decades after they met. I'm not suggesting you consider putting your life on hold and just hoping, but far weirder things have been known to happen.
When I refer to lesbians I know, bear in mind that I'm a geriatric, and my close friends all grew up in a time when being LGBT was definitely not accepted.
Thank you for your response! Would be a real miracle if she were to come to this realisation! However, I know most are skeptical with physchics but I once had a reading on her to try get me through and have some closure and I was told my ex friend used to see what she could get from me and that she was very conditional which definitely explains the way she used to act.
So I hardly doubt she will all of a sudden realize or think she loves me when it was conditional
is it normal that i'm in love with my best friend?
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That's kinda sad.
Who knows? Maybe she'll have second thoughts?
About half the lesbians I've known were married or in relationships with male assholes before they came out. I have wondered if it was some kind of subconscious self-sabotaging thing. They felt social or familial pressures to be straight, so they picked the most obnoxious guy they came across. After being miserable with him for a while, they could more easily justify to themselves the feelings they'd always had for other women.
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Yeah I was utterly heart broken and I'll always have the wound to some degree but since telling her I was able to let her go finally since I used to hold onto hope.
False hope obviously :/
Well idk, I really don't think she'll have second thoughts as when we were friends, I was lucky if I got to hang with her since she didn't dedicate much time to me. I felt like I meant nothing to her, even as a friend which hurt even more. We were close though, we would share amazing hugs (long embraceful ones ), she would often say she loves me heaps. I believe we shared a "moment" on the beach one day years ago. We were high & with a group of friends.
I was checking out everyone's eye color and noticing how much stronger in color they'd become. When I looked into hers,it felt different, as cheesy as it sounds it's like time stood still for a while and we were just gazing into each others eyes. I felt something that day! Years later when we had a fall out then reconnected, she said that day on the beach it's like we had a connection and it's like we interconnected. Then she said :
"Kinda sounds like romance".
That day forward, I had high hopes she felt a romantic one like myself.
I don't know why women would feel pressured into being straight in today's age though? LGBT has become more socially accepted..?
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I don't think the eye-gazing thing sounds cheesy at all.
Looking deeply into someone's eyes can produce powerful feelings, and it's risky in a situation like the one you describe. Sad that it didn't work out, even though she apparently did feel some connection.
I don't know much about your situation, but you do hear stories about people finally realizing they belong together decades after they met. I'm not suggesting you consider putting your life on hold and just hoping, but far weirder things have been known to happen.
When I refer to lesbians I know, bear in mind that I'm a geriatric, and my close friends all grew up in a time when being LGBT was definitely not accepted.
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Thank you for your response! Would be a real miracle if she were to come to this realisation! However, I know most are skeptical with physchics but I once had a reading on her to try get me through and have some closure and I was told my ex friend used to see what she could get from me and that she was very conditional which definitely explains the way she used to act.
So I hardly doubt she will all of a sudden realize or think she loves me when it was conditional