Firstly with her liking you as a friend:
you're probably only having doubts about this because you're over analysing any social interaction with her because you like her, and at the same time you're scared that she might guess how you feel about her and not like it. She's almost deffinately just teasing you as a friend, friends do that.
Touching:
This more difficult for me to give advice on seeing as I am male and touching is different between males. However maybe if you unconciously act as if you might be homosexual people will generally feel less comfortable touching you. (I also have it the other way round, I only feel comfortable touching guys who are gay or bi).
Is she attracted to you as well?
I'm afraid the answer to this question is probably not. If she were attracted to you and didn't have any problem with that, she would be fine with touching you. That leaves two possibilties: a) she is straight, which is the most likely. b) she is attracted to you and is insecure about it (and therefore doesn't like touching you because she feels that there's sexual tension that confuses her).
Either way it's a very bad idea to share your feelings with her as she will feel very weird about it and possibly end your friendship.
Instead you need to try to cope with the feelings without telling her and try to act normal around her and think of her as you would a friend. As much as this might feel impossible for you at the moment, trust me it can be done, you just need to persist.
I've been in a similar position, I told him and the whole thing went horribley wrong and I no longer speak to him and it spoilt my life for nearly a year. I avoided that happening with a second attraction be keeping my feelings to myself, and that's going fine now. I had to learn through depression and fear of repeating my mistakes. I have taken the time to make this post so that you do not need to make the same mistakes in order to handle these situations correctly.
Is it normal that I'm in love with my best friend?
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Firstly with her liking you as a friend:
you're probably only having doubts about this because you're over analysing any social interaction with her because you like her, and at the same time you're scared that she might guess how you feel about her and not like it. She's almost deffinately just teasing you as a friend, friends do that.
Touching:
This more difficult for me to give advice on seeing as I am male and touching is different between males. However maybe if you unconciously act as if you might be homosexual people will generally feel less comfortable touching you. (I also have it the other way round, I only feel comfortable touching guys who are gay or bi).
Is she attracted to you as well?
I'm afraid the answer to this question is probably not. If she were attracted to you and didn't have any problem with that, she would be fine with touching you. That leaves two possibilties: a) she is straight, which is the most likely. b) she is attracted to you and is insecure about it (and therefore doesn't like touching you because she feels that there's sexual tension that confuses her).
Either way it's a very bad idea to share your feelings with her as she will feel very weird about it and possibly end your friendship.
Instead you need to try to cope with the feelings without telling her and try to act normal around her and think of her as you would a friend. As much as this might feel impossible for you at the moment, trust me it can be done, you just need to persist.
I've been in a similar position, I told him and the whole thing went horribley wrong and I no longer speak to him and it spoilt my life for nearly a year. I avoided that happening with a second attraction be keeping my feelings to myself, and that's going fine now. I had to learn through depression and fear of repeating my mistakes. I have taken the time to make this post so that you do not need to make the same mistakes in order to handle these situations correctly.
Yours faithfully
Devyn