Is it normal that i'm going crazy from a total lack of affection?

This isn't a joke. I have anxiety and depression, and I think both are linked to the fact that I'm dying for human contact. My family is very weird about touch. No one touches each other ever. I don't have a GF, but I have been a total sap in the past for any girl that would let me hold her in my arms. Wow, this is sounding embarrassing. It's been a while since I had anyone like that in my life. I absolutely need that comfort. It's the best feeling on earth to me. I can't get it from my guy friends because even when they do hug it has to be all macho, not actually affectionate, and my all my female friends (not many) are dating friends of mine, so I feel weird about getting too cozy with them. I've been seriously checking out cuddleparty.com. I just want to hold and be held. It's the primary reason I want a gf. That's right, primary, above sex. But I feel so down and so anxious all the time because I feel alone. I have lots of friends, but I get no physical comfort from them. This all sounds super weird as I type it, but it's true. What should I do?

Is It Normal?
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  • Touch is VERY important. It releases endorphins that make people feel good. Maybe you should go get a massage. You are so not weird.

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  • It took courage to write what you did. Kudos to you for not backing down.

    Hmmm. It sounds like you need a girlfriend or at least a guy friend who's not afraid to give you a gigantic bear hug. Either way, it's normal.

    There's something in us that needs human contact and affection.

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  • You are completely normal, or at least I feel the same way. When I dont get touched, hugged, cuddled, or have intimate contact for over a month I get seriously depressed. A hug wouldnt even be enough for me. Its just that feeling of someone you really like touching you, almost like they're releasing electrical waves of feel-good energy into your body. To me it literally feels like electricity-in a good way haaha.

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  • I haven't had that since I graduated high school a year ago, and now I realize why I'm so depressed.

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  • Try to be more outgoing and make more friends. Once you get close enough with a girl, ask her out. If she says yes, then you can be affectionate with her, but if it doesn't work out the first time, don't stress yourself out. Things happen. Just try again, and things will get better. (:

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  • My dad never hugs me and my mom rarely does... I have lack of affection cause I'm not used to being so affectionate but I'm trying for my boyfriend!

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  • Can I adopt you?!?!? That was cute. I believe everyone needs some physical contact every now and then. It definitely is nice to have body contact with another person. My family are very affectionate to one another. I have met people who find it weird. But they seem to be people who claim they're close to their family and friends but aren't. So what if I/we give my brother, mother, father, cousin etc. a kiss on the cheek and a hug every time we see each other. I'll tell you what, I will adopt you into my family and we will give you all the affection you need. We're not overly affectionate, I don't feel the need to touch someone ever 5 seconds but simple physical contact can mean a lot to some people.

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  • You are completely normal. You could be one of those rare people that are "touchers" Its a very good feeling to be held and hugged. Don't let anybody make you feel strange for this. You are normal. We all need to be touched.

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  • Aww that was the cutest post ever. It's totally normal to need that. My family is the same way about touching. I seriously flinch if my mom ever touches me cause it never ever happened growing up so it's uncomfortable.

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  • Awww I'll let you hold me :) Hahah if you want you can text me :) my number is 1-954-601-3559

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  • Awww, this is cute. I'll spoon with ya'.

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