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And of course the only way to deal with that is losing weight, I know, currently am working on that.
So basically if anyone shows physical interest in me I (mentally) label them a chubby chaser, and lose interest in them.
I personally do not believe any guys really "like" chubby/fat girls. you are correct, it is not an attractive trait in a girl. Any guy who claims to like chubby girls is probably just desperate or low self esteem.
No ones perfect. If you cant lose the weight then just accept that you may have to find yourself one of these guys. Theyre usually still nice people. Its not the end of the world.
I think men in general love women of all shapes and sizes. You have a negative self perception of your body image so you always think that if a guy shows interest he is automatically a "chubby chaser", or in other words that he isn't attracted to the real you but has a fetish for your body type. But you shouldn't judge everyone like that, it's a little unfair.
So, I understand that you want a guy loves your personality and not just your body, but you HAVE A BODY and men are going to react to it positively or negatively. You should not fear men who like your body.
It's sad how people are are sexually attracted to heavier people are all dismissed as creepy, two-dimensional and all like-minded. It depends on the person. MANY men of ALL personalities and ALL throughout history have been seuxally attracted to fat women.
Personally, I would rather date a man who loved my body AND my personality than a man who loved my personality and hated my body.
I think it's somewhat understandable, but there might be guys who are genuinely attracted to you who would prefer you thinner therefore those guys could appreciate and support your weight lose efforts. I think it's understandable to not want to date a "chubby chaser", because it seems like chubby chasers have a fetish for fat chicks, and I personally believe fetishism, at least in the extreme, is quite objectifying and thereby degrading.
I think everyone has their type, but if that type is a physically unhealthy type it would be not only physically, but emotionally unhealthy for the fat chick as weight loss would improve her emotional as well as physical well being, and her self esteem in general. I do believe that oftentimes there is a certain pressure for a person to maintain the same appearance that said person had at the beginning of the relationship, but in the case of the fat chick and the chubby chaser that initial appearance is an unhealthy appearance.