Is it normal that i'm conflicted about losing my virginity?

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In one hand I would really like to have sex in order to fulfill many of my sickest fantasies/fetishes. On the other hand, I'm afraid of what losing my virginity might mean. As if something horrendously bad will occur if I do...

It's such a stupid fear, that holds very little rationality...but it's become the one thing that has kept me from losing my virginity so far.

I'm not in any rush to lose it, and I would definitely prefer to be with a long-time partner...but what if this doesn't change even then? What if I'm stuck with this stupid fear for the rest of my life?

Sometimes I wonder if I'm crazy.

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  • ~xDameInDistressx~
    11 years ago

    Only have sex when you're ready.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Calm down, don't rush anything if you know you're not ready.

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  • Couman
    11 years ago

    I think our culture really sets people up for that kind of feeling. I mean why is there even a special name for it? It's just an experience you haven't had yet.

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  • TomboyC
    11 years ago

    I'm the same, my boyfriend and I have talked about it quite a bit and I'm excited to lose it, I'm just afraid of the awkwardness/painfulness of the first time :/

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Honestly, sex is fun crazy wild and wonderful but it isn't all THAT big of a deal. You can wait or go for it whatever - but don't torture yourself about it. You'll just end up disappointed.

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  • OnlyOneForMe
    11 years ago

    Well, I really didn't have this problem because I'm a boy.. Anyways, from the girl's I've been with, I've heard it hurts to have your hymen broken, but feels so great afterwards, so I guess its really up to you.

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  • PboDude
    11 years ago

    Sickest fantasies/fetishes? Do tell.

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  • YesterdaysGone
    11 years ago

    How old are you?

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    • s4rawberry
      11 years ago

      I'll be 21 in a couple weeks.

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