Is it normal that i'm completely obsessed with my fiance's baby momma?

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I really need to know if anybody else does this, or what they think about it. I've never told anybody this, and i really need real legitamit comments, not smart a$$es, ok..
I am engaged to the love of my life. Before we officially got together, he was with this girl and he had 2 kids with her. (which infuriates me, by the way.) We've been together for over 3 years, and they've been broke up for about 6 years, they were together when they were teenagers. And i am totally , and completely obsessed with this girl, and i dont know why!!!! first off, she (WAS) exactly his type when they dated. She was short, and skinny and had long bleach blonde hair, and was tanned. but now she's fat and has her natural dark brown hair, so i'm happy about that! Here's some of the things that i do: i have disks that i have over probably 150-some pictures of her on, and look at them, and i compare myself to her. i get pics of her off of her family's facebook pages and such. i save all the pics of her and i compare myself to her. also , when i find out things about her, i have this little journal that i write it in, like things she says, or things she likes, or things she does. i have tried in the past to be like her, but i know i'll never be as pretty as she was. Is this normal, that i 'm this obsessed with her and have pics of her?

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  • Megan10
    12 years ago | pl

    Okay no need to snap at the comment. How were they supposed to know that? I think you should talk to a psychologist.

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  • scandinavia
    13 years ago | pl

    not everyone had stupid ass ignorant comments!!

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  • sleepingbeauty87
    13 years ago | pl

    really, wow...that shows that you dont know SH*T. because if you were to ask anybody that even knows the 3 of us and the whole story they would tell you that bitch neglected their oldest kid all the time to the point that it died. she LET their kid die, because she's a piece of shit, pathetic excuse for a mother. and i dont have enough time left in this whole night to tell you everything she's ever done to him and to us. so you have no clue what you're talkin about. go on another story to post your stupid ass IGNORANT comments.

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  • lalala26
    13 years ago | pl

    You should not be so worried about his ex you should just be kind about her. He was with her before you came along . Maybe he should go back to her it sounds like you are alot worse then she was.

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  • lalala26
    13 years ago | pl

    You should get over her and stop being so needy / crazy/ obsessive. You will only push him right into another womans arms...

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  • psychobabble
    13 years ago | pl

    Wow girl! Don't do that to yourself! Instead of looking for the things he liked about her, why don't you try making a list of all the great qualities he sees in you.

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  • scandinavia
    13 years ago | pl

    ehm he is with you and not with her..all girlfriends have a little obsession with a guys ex that had some significant importance...but loads of pics, comparison etc, that to much!!..i used to look at a pic of my exes ex just because it was empowering seeing how much more attractive i was but then some guys dont care less about looks

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago | pl

    Sounds lime single white female. Be happy with who u are! They split up for a reason and he has chosen u to be with! Delete everything u have on her and instead focus on your relationship with your man :)

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  • Ames21
    13 years ago | pl

    He's with u and not her for a reason. Be yourself and be proud of youself. If he wanted her he would be with her and not u!

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  • mysti446
    13 years ago | pl

    Not normal.. Sounds like an obession and could be harmful for your relationship if you dont get it under control.

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  • CaramelChrissy
    13 years ago | pl

    I don't think it's normal. He is with you for a reason. Stop worrying about her looks and how she acts. It's you he wants. If he finds out about this you could possibly ruin your relationship with him. Do you want that?

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    • sleepingbeauty87
      13 years ago | pl

      thank you chrissy. that actually makes ALOT of sense, because you made me think of something i never have before......which is "how would he react if he knew all of this". and i can just about guarantee, he would be REALLY freaked out, i dont know what he would do. it could ruin our relationship.
      thanks for your comment.

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  • ComeFlyWithMe
    13 years ago | pl

    I'd say it's kind of normal but also kind of obsessive. He's with you now, not her even though she's the mother of his kids so don't worry too much about it.

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