Is it normal that i'm bi and falling in love with a straight girl?

Sorry it's so long. Well let me first say I'm bi and my best friend is a girl but she is straight. I think I might be falling in love with her and I don't know what to do. Is it normal that I'm feeling this way towards her? Me and her were talking, and I told her that I was falling in love with one of my best friends she asked who she wants to know so bad, but the thing is is that it's her that I'm falling in love with. Should I tell her how I feel?

Is It Normal?
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  • i really dont think sexuality matters, you cant help who you fall in love with, corny i know but its the truth.

    i think you need to weigh up your options. do you think it would ruin the friendship if you did declare your feelings? would the love be reciprocated?

    although, u dont try u dont get. do whatever you think is right. if not get drunk then tell her, if she brushes it off, pretend that you was too drunk to remember!

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  • This is a delicate situation that you should tread VERY carefully on.

    The first step is to know if you really do love the person and that it's not infatuation, or a crush, or something smaller, that you could spend your life with said person and other deep questions.

    Second step is to weigh your options. Is it worth the risk of your friendship to tell her you think of her as more then just best friends? Would it damage your relationship to ruin, or could you still function? Are you willing to live with possible unrequited love?

    Third step is your action. Which you also have to do carefully as well. If it is worth the risk, and it is actual love, then make sure your message is clear. That it can't be confused for something different or a joke.
    If it's not worth the risk, maybe it's worth a wait to see how things play out. You don't have to tell her right away. But don't wait too long, if the answer is yes.

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  • I've been on the other side of this situation before, a friend of mine told me he was really into me, but I had to tell him that I'm not into guys and he would have to find someone else. It was a little awkward at first but we're still great friends, he just had to move on with his emotions and he ended up finding a guy who liked him too.

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  • i do think it is normal. however, you failed to mention if you're male or female. if you're a girl and your best friend/crush is straight, it's not gonna go anywhere. so just stick to being best friends.

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  • How strange, that is EXACTLY my situation. I told her and she accepts me for it, however for a while things were weird. It really hurts that she can't love me back because I love her with all my heart, but I'm glad she knows.

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  • I have the same situation going with this girl I think in love with her. If she didn't show up for school for a few days I would get so worried! I've had dreams to fantasies of cute little dates and whatnot I could kiss her infront

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  • Well there's nothing wrong with you being a Bi and falling in love with her. You're a "Bi" which makes you both attracted to males and females I suppose? I'm a Bi too.
    And I don't think that it'll be a weird thing, if she's straight, you're bi, and you're loving a girl at the moment. So, I think it'll be fine~ Try to slowly emerge the feeling towards her and see how she reacts~

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  • Wow...

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