Things just got worser. I have a really bad problem talking to myself in my room and now everybody repeating everything I be saying laughing at me and just being extremely loud I don't want to leave cause I love my husband and an addiction that I'm hooked on but I'm starting to get worried and scared that someone going to do something to me and then my NetSpend card came up missing that my money supposed to be coming to that my husband was supposed to be holding and was supposed to be in his coat pocket, just some wires shit going on around here whole coat came up missing now he says that he never told me that I'm just now realizing he lies alot and I just feel like he don't love me more. I wish there was some where I could go for peace and quiet. I just now realized nobody gives a shit about me
I really dislike doors inside of a house or apartment. They allow people to hide, do things in secret, or escape addressing issues. They allow things to build up to pressure points of exploding. Ultimately being slammed or broken.
I grew up where there were no interior doors and removed the ones in every house I've lived in since. Even my children kind of adopted the policy either the doors are off or they have an open door policy.
I know, what about privacy? Well first I'm a naturalist and nudity is and has never been an issue. However, there has always been a curtain available in the bathrooms and bedroom doors. Seldom used but they're there.
Now the reason I say politely disagree, is they are living with somebody. Don't know anything about that relationship, if it's family or not.
It always better in a close living environment to iron out emotional issues than to go hide from them. They eventually will boil over. If they can't be solved then time to find your own place
I live alone, and mostly I sleep with my bedroom door closed. The only reason I ever slept with the door open for nearly fifteen years is because I used to have a Siamese cat.
I guess it is safer if you have a fire and more environmentally friendly if your rooms are individually climate controlled.
I just don't like doors, I want to know what's going on in other parts of the house. I even position my bed so I can easily see out the door of the bedroom towards the rest of the house.
Still missing your companion, you haven't got a new baby yet?
Yeah, if I'm living alone with just a cat then I would be cool always leaving the door open for for the sake of the cat, but when I was staying with my folks next door, and sleeping in their guestroom it was too noisy! Also, I can't imagine living with other people, and not wanting peace, and quiet, or privacy sometimes, most of the time for me.
I think people should be entitled to have privacy! I think it's inhumane, and abusive to expect someone else to be okay with having their door taken off the hinges. Yeah, sure, maybe some people feel like they don't need privacy, but it's unfair for them to push that on people sharing the same home. I would probably leave the boyfriend over that shit. I just love my privacy, and my serenity! It's better to be alone than with family like OP's boyfriend's family. I think they are bullying OP.
I understand if you're living with someone that is not really part of your close family. When I spend time at someone else's house I respect their house rules or don't stay.
I do understand the privacy issues if you want to read, get some work done, or just spend some time on the computer/pad. However I've never had a problem finding a place and kind of tuning out the rest of the world. I'll go outside on the balcony or to a park if all else fails. My bedrooms have never been the place I want to go to sit, most haven't been big enough for chairs and the rest of the furniture. I don't like sitting on the bed. I get on the bed I want to lie down and go to sleep or do other activities. Lol It's just not a comfortable place to sit for me.
It just comes down to, I don't stay if I'm not comfortable. I've only had to live in shared space where I didn't have a choice a couple of times, college and national service, and we didn't get doors there, yes, between rooms but your room including the bath was shared with 2 to 4 others. You adapt and find a way to get privacy and respect others privacy.
I see what you're saying, but I still maintain that OP's husband, and his family are being abusive to her. I don't think there was any reason for him to take the door off it's hinges other than to torment her, and appease his family! Her husband, and his family sound like awful people!
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Terrorism.
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Yes! It's torture!
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Things just got worser. I have a really bad problem talking to myself in my room and now everybody repeating everything I be saying laughing at me and just being extremely loud I don't want to leave cause I love my husband and an addiction that I'm hooked on but I'm starting to get worried and scared that someone going to do something to me and then my NetSpend card came up missing that my money supposed to be coming to that my husband was supposed to be holding and was supposed to be in his coat pocket, just some wires shit going on around here whole coat came up missing now he says that he never told me that I'm just now realizing he lies alot and I just feel like he don't love me more. I wish there was some where I could go for peace and quiet. I just now realized nobody gives a shit about me
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Can you go back to your parents?
I politely disagree with the door problem.
I really dislike doors inside of a house or apartment. They allow people to hide, do things in secret, or escape addressing issues. They allow things to build up to pressure points of exploding. Ultimately being slammed or broken.
I grew up where there were no interior doors and removed the ones in every house I've lived in since. Even my children kind of adopted the policy either the doors are off or they have an open door policy.
I know, what about privacy? Well first I'm a naturalist and nudity is and has never been an issue. However, there has always been a curtain available in the bathrooms and bedroom doors. Seldom used but they're there.
Now the reason I say politely disagree, is they are living with somebody. Don't know anything about that relationship, if it's family or not.
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I live alone, and mostly I sleep with my bedroom door closed. The only reason I ever slept with the door open for nearly fifteen years is because I used to have a Siamese cat.
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I guess it is safer if you have a fire and more environmentally friendly if your rooms are individually climate controlled.
I just don't like doors, I want to know what's going on in other parts of the house. I even position my bed so I can easily see out the door of the bedroom towards the rest of the house.
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Nope, no new kitty yet. Thanks for asking!
Yeah, if I'm living alone with just a cat then I would be cool always leaving the door open for for the sake of the cat, but when I was staying with my folks next door, and sleeping in their guestroom it was too noisy! Also, I can't imagine living with other people, and not wanting peace, and quiet, or privacy sometimes, most of the time for me.
I think people should be entitled to have privacy! I think it's inhumane, and abusive to expect someone else to be okay with having their door taken off the hinges. Yeah, sure, maybe some people feel like they don't need privacy, but it's unfair for them to push that on people sharing the same home. I would probably leave the boyfriend over that shit. I just love my privacy, and my serenity! It's better to be alone than with family like OP's boyfriend's family. I think they are bullying OP.
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I understand if you're living with someone that is not really part of your close family. When I spend time at someone else's house I respect their house rules or don't stay.
I do understand the privacy issues if you want to read, get some work done, or just spend some time on the computer/pad. However I've never had a problem finding a place and kind of tuning out the rest of the world. I'll go outside on the balcony or to a park if all else fails. My bedrooms have never been the place I want to go to sit, most haven't been big enough for chairs and the rest of the furniture. I don't like sitting on the bed. I get on the bed I want to lie down and go to sleep or do other activities. Lol It's just not a comfortable place to sit for me.
It just comes down to, I don't stay if I'm not comfortable. I've only had to live in shared space where I didn't have a choice a couple of times, college and national service, and we didn't get doors there, yes, between rooms but your room including the bath was shared with 2 to 4 others. You adapt and find a way to get privacy and respect others privacy.
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I see what you're saying, but I still maintain that OP's husband, and his family are being abusive to her. I don't think there was any reason for him to take the door off it's hinges other than to torment her, and appease his family! Her husband, and his family sound like awful people!