Is it normal that i'm always depressed/sick?

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I'm 21 and I've been feeling depressed for more than 2 years now.
I'm never happy, I'm always very tired but I sleep a lot, I'm very irritable all the time, I find it hard to be around people lately (even though I'm very sociable and I'm surrounded by so many people who love me), I easily get sick with all kinds of diseases (like, if i get a cold, I get the nastiest one ever and I barely get well again) or just get random pains..like migraines or stomach aches - just very weak.

I've always been slim but my weight started to just go up and down lately, give or take 5-7 kg ( sometimes I don't feel like eating at all, for days - sometimes I get really weird cravings and I just stuff myself).

My skin doesn't look too good either, I think I just look old and exhausted all the time..or as if I've been smoking all my life - and I don't even smoke!

I'm also very bothered by light, it makes my eyes and head hurt. I can't bring myself to do anything, sometimes I just lie in bed for days thinking about how active and happy I used to be, and I have no idea how to get back there.

Everybody keeps on calling me and trying to reach me but I just shut everyone out and ask them to all leave me alone. I also can't be in a relationship as much as I tried (and I've been with some of the best people ever), I just end up feeling suffocated and upset.

I've managed to feel a bit better for max 1 month at a time, after trying really hard - only to fall back even harder. I don't recognize myself at all. I keep on looking back, trying to find the exact moment when everything started going downhill, but I never find it.

Sometimes I cry for no reason - and sometimes really random things trigger that. Things that aren't even sad.

I tried to talk to someone about this but I can't, especially to my parents, I don't think they would understand. They'd probably just tell me to try harder and that it's all in my head.

The thought of some kind of an "escape" is always at the back of my head, I just feel extremely ill and I want it to end.
I'm sorry, I know I wrote a lot but I was hoping that maybe strangers could help me, or maybe someone went through the same thing as me and got better.

Thanks!

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I would honestly see a doctor; for mental and health reason. Something might be causing you to feel depressed. You get one life and you should be living it.

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  • Drusilla101
    13 years ago

    You are just like I was. It is normal, but you must go see a Doctor immediately.

    You have Depression, possibly the same form that I do. Your highs are lows, and your lows are severe. Depression not only makes you feel helpless, sad, and all the other things you described, but it also makes you physically ill as well. I was sick for more than 2 years, just as you described, before they diagnosed me. I was put on several different meds before they found one that worked, and eventually I was slowly taken off of the meds and can now live and function happily without them.

    Also, the weight gain could be due to a thyroid issue, which also makes the depression 1,000 times worse than it would normally be.

    Go to the doctor and ask them about antidepressants as well as a blood test to check out your thyroid (as well as blood pressure, blood sugar, etc).

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  • what??
    13 years ago

    honey, u have depression but the stigma attached to mental illness by a still-too-ignorant society is causing u to worry about "normal". depression is a form of stress and stress always weakens the immune system, which explains the sickness. go to a therapist n talk as much as u need to talk. contrary to the idea that talking is "doing nothing" is the fact that it helps MANY people. i know exactly what ur talking about when u say ur depressed for no reason. please get help b4 u turn to drugs/alcohol/suicide 4 escape. here's a hug sweetie

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  • keru
    7 years ago

    Omg we have a lot in common! Let's both be friends :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    You need to have more sex. Best remedy against depression.

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    I was like this, and it turned out I was ill with digestive issues. I was not absorbing nutrition no matter how much I ate. The deficiencies would explain your appearance as well as your state of mind. Iron deficiency and vitamin D deficiency are common. Get tested. Getting off dairy may also be helpful. Take magnesium supplements in the morning and calcium and vitamin D 2000 IU at night. Get out in the sunshine.

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  • Janie2T
    10 years ago

    Absolutely definitely NOT normal! You really need to get some help fast. I'm serious!

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Get or give a blowjob. Cures everything!

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  • probablyok
    12 years ago

    Drusilla101's advice sounds good. I read this right after an article on hypothyroidism. Dry skin, dry hair, tiredness, fluctuating weight, depression- a list of symptoms. You can request a test. Many people go undiagnosed for years.

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  • Flirty108
    13 years ago

    I have been depressed for 17years! And I'm still am! It's isn't normal but with help you can make it at leats a manageable habit! I hope that helps!

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  • allik_21
    13 years ago

    Depression makes you sick

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  • iznormalish
    13 years ago

    Alright, I'm 22 and I have been through the exact same thing. I was depressed for much longer though. Medicine is what helped me. I still get emotional sometimes but its not nearly as often as it was. Its perfectly normal for you to feel that way and to be honest 1 out of 3 people have a mental illness of some sort including depression. Go get professional help and you will be a much stronger person in the long run for it.

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  • NotSoLaky
    13 years ago

    Don't talk to a doctor talk to a therapist. All these conditions are related to Ur downess. U gotta see professional help

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  • ComeFlyWithMe
    13 years ago

    You definitely need to see a doctor about this. If you're still young and in school you can talk to a school counselor.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    There's no hope bro feels bad man ;'{

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