I kinda do the same thing. I don't know why but I just ... I don't know. Its weird. My friend says that if theres one thing he dislikes about me, its my lack of commitment. But the thing is, that I really do wanna commit, but just to someone that I really like. Someone I don't feel forced to go out with. And it seems like most of the time, the ones that wanna commit are the ones I'd rather not commit to. And then it seems like if I say no in the nicest way I possibly can, I'm made to feel guilty about it, because the person I said no to goes on about it. So then I'm forced to say yes, and then its an uncomfortable situation for me. :(
I understand how you feel though. I never thought dating could be so hard. But when the feelings just aren't there, I can't make myself move forward. And I'm actually in this predicament with two different people right now. I'm not dating either one, but they both are giving me shit about not giving them a chance. One of them I actually did give a chance to, but it ended after like a month or so, because I just couldn't let myself move forward. Plus, he kind of moved too fast for me so it wasn't gonna work anyway.
Is it normal that I'm always afraid of dating?
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I kinda do the same thing. I don't know why but I just ... I don't know. Its weird. My friend says that if theres one thing he dislikes about me, its my lack of commitment. But the thing is, that I really do wanna commit, but just to someone that I really like. Someone I don't feel forced to go out with. And it seems like most of the time, the ones that wanna commit are the ones I'd rather not commit to. And then it seems like if I say no in the nicest way I possibly can, I'm made to feel guilty about it, because the person I said no to goes on about it. So then I'm forced to say yes, and then its an uncomfortable situation for me. :(
I understand how you feel though. I never thought dating could be so hard. But when the feelings just aren't there, I can't make myself move forward. And I'm actually in this predicament with two different people right now. I'm not dating either one, but they both are giving me shit about not giving them a chance. One of them I actually did give a chance to, but it ended after like a month or so, because I just couldn't let myself move forward. Plus, he kind of moved too fast for me so it wasn't gonna work anyway.