Is it normal that i'm a 20 year old female and still a virgin?
So, I'm 20 years old (female) and still a virgin. I don't understand HOW that is so abnormal considering how ugly most men are, but apparently it is.
1. It isn't a religious thing
2. Religion aside, I am not waiting for marriage or intentionally waiting for "the right person"... I guess I am technically??? but not intentionally
3. I'm not a lesbian. I should have clarified that beforehand.
4. Nor am I asexual.
5. It isn't that I just can't get laid either... or maybe in a sense, it is??? but it's my own fault for being so picky.
It isn't any of those things. I feel like, if you're a boy, and a virgin, you are mocked. If you're a girl, you aren't mocked, but you are forced to explain yourself. WHY are you a virgin? As if you COULD explain it. The truth is it just hasn't happened yet. No reason. I guess if there is a reason, it's just that i'm the type of person who prefers to let things happen, naturally.
I'm not desperate to lose my virginity. I had a friend, 19 year old, also a virgin who felt like a freak for being one and so she just slept with some random ugly dude who she really didn't even want to sleep with. Is virginity really THAT important? I guess it is in our culture... sad, really.
But I don't want people, religious or otherwise, to congratulate me for doing something "commendable" either. It's not like I've had any real opportunities.
For one thing, humans are a terrible species so I don't really talk to anyone, let alone guys. I've only had one boyfriend, I've only kissed 2 guys. Many guys have hit on me (they'll hit on anything, even a horse), and of course, I've ignored them all, but I wouldn't really call that an "opportunity". I call it "creepiness". It's not like I'm "in the moment" or even attracted to these freaks.
I'm really picky, too. I can't help it. I'm picky with both looks AND personalities and being such a irrational idealist is hard when you have a shitty personality AND shitty looks.
I'm only asking this because I really do wonder if I'm ever going to lose my virginity. Like I said, I'm not desperate, and if any guys see this, DON'T flirt with me, I'll just ignore it or maybe even vomit, but sex is something that I would like to experience before I die, at least.