My only thoughts are that; this can only be a harmful relationship. The only type of man (aged 45+) that wants to date a 19 yo, is a pervert. The kind of guy that cares more about sex than shared views, experiences or values. That is a pervert.
I don't know how I can convince you this is wrong, but imagine what the relationship would be like. He could have children older than you, imagine what kind of creep would sleep with someone younger than his own children?!
Of course he could also not have children... at that age? Your options are limited to 45 yo shut-ins, divorcees and adulterers. Do you know of any never-before-married 45 yo guys that strike you as relationship material? The divorcee is only looking for fun and reliving his youth (making you an object of pleasure not an equal), and the adulterer is... well, that.
Look hypothetically, this can work. You are an adult (barely but legally), and you have the right to trust your own judgement on this. But please think about this as much as you can.
But from any angle I look at it, there is no such thing as the man you'd want. Is there such thing as a decent, respectful, sane, wholesome guy out there who's 45+ that's looking for women lees than half his age? Just try to imagine what kind of person he'd be, and what reason he'd have to date you.
Could you compete with him mentally (if yes, that's a sad 45 yo), would you be able to relate to each other? Do you think he'd show you any respect? Do you think you'd be accepted by friends and family? Can you live with not being respected by anyone in you life?
I can't imagine a world in which this could be a healthy relationship for either party. Sorry for the long post.
Is it normal that I'm 19 and find myself only attracted to older men?
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My only thoughts are that; this can only be a harmful relationship. The only type of man (aged 45+) that wants to date a 19 yo, is a pervert. The kind of guy that cares more about sex than shared views, experiences or values. That is a pervert.
I don't know how I can convince you this is wrong, but imagine what the relationship would be like. He could have children older than you, imagine what kind of creep would sleep with someone younger than his own children?!
Of course he could also not have children... at that age? Your options are limited to 45 yo shut-ins, divorcees and adulterers. Do you know of any never-before-married 45 yo guys that strike you as relationship material? The divorcee is only looking for fun and reliving his youth (making you an object of pleasure not an equal), and the adulterer is... well, that.
Look hypothetically, this can work. You are an adult (barely but legally), and you have the right to trust your own judgement on this. But please think about this as much as you can.
But from any angle I look at it, there is no such thing as the man you'd want. Is there such thing as a decent, respectful, sane, wholesome guy out there who's 45+ that's looking for women lees than half his age? Just try to imagine what kind of person he'd be, and what reason he'd have to date you.
Could you compete with him mentally (if yes, that's a sad 45 yo), would you be able to relate to each other? Do you think he'd show you any respect? Do you think you'd be accepted by friends and family? Can you live with not being respected by anyone in you life?
I can't imagine a world in which this could be a healthy relationship for either party. Sorry for the long post.