Is it normal that i'm 25 and a virgin?

Hey there

I'm a girl of 25, I'm still a virgin. I think I look okay, I am not confident about my body, however everyone tells me I look very attractive and tend to get hit on a lot. I am shy and everything but I wouldn't consider myself an introvert in social situations, I have plenty of friends, including a lot of boys. I don't really feel especially shy around boys, however I seem to have this aura of unavailability. I also am not the type to walk up to a stranger and say hey, i think you're cute.

I never had many problems with mild flirting, and I've made out with several people and sometimes I was even the one to start it. I never had a real relationship though, and the idea of one scares me because I don't like to be tied down to a person.

I was really into this guy once but he basically started avoiding me after a first sort of date, saying he didn't want a relationship even though I never acted like I wanted one.

It never happened, I never really had anyone I felt close enough to go through with it. But as the days go by I feel more and more self conscious about it, to the point that I feel it may never happen. In an intimate situation I will most likely freeze and not know how to deal with it.

Is this normal?

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Based on 254 votes (210 yes)
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  • dizzybee

    Change the age from 25 to 22, and this becomes my story exactly, too. You're not alone! :3

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    • Suru_stuborn

      Make it 24😂

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  • BigDaddyDave05

    There is no reason to be ashamed of being a virgin. Its not like theres a race to see who loses their virginity first. That is something you dont want to rush. Youll know if your ready when the time comes. If your not, no big deal.

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  • Alaskaraven

    Normal because you don't want to whore around before you find someone you care about??

    DUH.

    What is wrong w/ our society that we all think you have to have sex at an early age WITH ANYONE or there's something wrong...?

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  • LisaL79

    Very normal. There is nothing wrong with staying a virgin, specially if you haven't found that right person you'd want to do it with.

    It'll happen. I wouldn't worry about it too much :)

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  • Of course that is normal. You don't feel ready for a relationship that may lead to that level of intimacy, and you don't want casual sex. So isn't it kind of inevitable that you would remain a virgin?

    I think some day the right guy is going to come along and you will build that relationship. In the meantime, why not just date guys - learn about them & yourself - enjoy the companionship. There are all kinds of levels.

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  • JadeH

    whew i'm starting to feel better. i'm 23 and almost gonna be 24 in a month and still virgin by choice. please answer mine tho i have complicated stuff i need advice on!

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  • Blue-Rosebuds

    I consider it normal.
    Not for any reason other than the fact that I'm a 26 year old male virgin.

    I really hope you find someone.

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  • faerbite

    very normal

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  • IngledewM

    There's nothing wrong with being a virgin as long as you are masturbating regularly, exploring your body etc. I only say this because exploring your body and masturbating should at least start you on the way to feeling more confident about your body.

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  • xino00

    normal stuff.

    but damn man!
    "I am not confident about my body, however everyone tells me I look very attractive and tend to get hit on a lot. I am shy and everything"

    That will be crazy O_o, to have an attractive girl like that and is a virgin and don't want boyfriend yet.

    What you are waiting for is someone who has the key to your heart or waiting to fall in love.

    So this is normal.

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  • Flipbac

    you may be scared of sex! what are your views about sex? Just have a good time go with the flow.

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  • Suru_stuborn

    I am 24yrs guy...Girls do stare at me..they call me I am handsome and look like a Playboy but the reality is I am Fukin virgin...when they ask me how many girlfriends do u have I say 3 or 4 juz to show them that yes I am cool kinda of guy...but in reality I don't even know how to make a girl friend ..I am very direct in terms of dealing with a gal..I say wats in my mind about her. And then she either stop taking with me or she juz don't want to talk about in that matter...all I do is I switch to another girl and it continues...I don't know how wat to do..??

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  • Veoh

    Do you think you're too good for guys?

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  • sunny_wantsome

    Wow i am a virgin to, lets be friends

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  • ijustwannaknow

    I am 19 and in the very same situation. All of my friends lost their v-card and I am the only one left. Not that there hasn't been any situations where it could have happened.. but do we really want to sleep with some random guy only to lose our virginity ? I don't. You are better on our own than with someone you want to be with for the wrong reasons. It's going to happen one day, keep holding on :)

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  • RedAngelfire70

    It has nothing to do with your attractiveness. If you get hit on and told your attractive, than believe it. It's the fact that you need to initiate if you want to find someone. Be forward if you have to. Saying something off the wall can be a big turn on to a lot of men. Men will hump a tree if it asked them to. Some of them can fall in love beforehand. But BEWARE, lots of men fall out of love after sex, so don't get too attached. ESPECIALLY on the first time.

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  • WayneCha

    It might not be normal statistically, but I didn't lost my virginity until I was forty, and now I'm having sex on a regular basis with my girlfriend. Not that I would expect you to wait that long for your first time, but some things are definitely worth waiting for!

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