Is it normal that i love sex but find it absolutely disgusting?

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Okay, so I want to make it clear that I'm NOT Asexual; far from it. I am quite easily aroused and am hornier that a brass band, I am fetish-friendly and open-minded, I have had serious intimate relationships and enjoyed them.....but....No matter what I do or how hard I try I can't see sex as anything more than a selfish means-to-an-end, a pleasurable but disgusting one.

Thing is, I don't WANT to feel this way....How can I overcome this disgust towards sex? How can I see it in a natural beautiful way? As an act of affection?
Given that I have strong sexual urges and I have had experience before and still feel disgust towards sex really worries me that I'll be stuck like this. How can I change?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    I have to agree with the author of this post, when you stop to think about it sex is fairly gross. And they're plenty of gross people in the world having sex, somehow.

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  • Tenderlovin
    9 years ago | pl

    Loving the person you're with or else it's just sex.

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  • DK7point0
    9 years ago | pl

    From my point of view, I agree, sex is a means of pleasure, the love comes in when you feel so strong about someone, you don't mind giving yourself to them, love comes into play when you are more than willing to offer yourself to that special someone and have them take advantage of you, just as you be wanting to take advantage of them...

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  • shroud_of_skela
    9 years ago | pl

    Ive had the same problem, and im a guy, i couldnt stop thinking or having sex all the time. After the 4 years i was the biggest player in the city.. had a new girl every night and i still feel bad that i broken a few hearts of the nicest girls ever! :'(
    I diserve at least many kicks and punches in the face for that, but 6 years ago, i went into therapi and dident have sex whit anyone for two years! I also got pills that made so i couldnt get horny. These two years were hell for me, but i made my choice and changed my life! Today im the most faithfull guy in the world, according to everyone that knows me. :)
    And i only have sex whit a girl that i love. I also got another thing that all my exes think was cute.. now i cant get my dick up iwhit somebody else then the girl im in love whit! Really weird and maybe a little bit sick. But its true!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago | pl

    It is ok to love it because it IS disgusting. Enjoy being dirty. Help your partner with his dirty feelings so you don't feel selfish.

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  • gorillaphant
    9 years ago | pl

    Pshh, thats just social conditioning. It's like saying eating is gross. It isnt selfish, it is life. Sex is normal and shouldn't be viewed as something wrong. Of course we do it for pleasure. Nothing wrong with that. It is okay to please yourself as long as you arent hurting someone in the process.

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    • Gspyder
      9 years ago | pl

      I agree with this. Social conditioning, or religious conditioning, as it was in my case.

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      • tripw7
        9 years ago | pl

        I too grew up in the religious conditioning that made me think that all sex was bad and not clean. I had a real bad time until I met a wonderful person, a women, that changed all of that for me. I wish for you the same. Good luck.

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  • donotmockme
    9 years ago | pl

    Yeah, I agree with Tenderlovin, when you find someone who you love, I doubt you'd view it the same way.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago | pl

    If your referring to the mess afterwards then yes. Yes it is disgusting there is always so much cum and its everywhere!. Its on the bed, on her face, my bellybutton, streams are flying off the sealing fan. Not to mention all the damn sweat. Her sweat and your sweat combine to make this sticky sweat cocktail and you gotta walk to the shower with your arms up like Frankensteins monster.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago | pl

    I get it, you said you tried it before but it doesn't sound like you enjoyed it. Is it because you did it just so you could say to had sex?

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