I think it's normal to enjoy appreciative looks from other people, but I'd argue that if you're wearing tiny clothes specifically to attract attention, it's disingenuous to say you don't seek it. Shorts that don't show the lowermost curve of your buttcheeks are no less comfortable than short shorts; they're arguably a lot more comfortable, especially if you sit on a leather seat or a hot metal park bench.
Wearing provocative clothes sometimes doesn't make you a "slut." It might make people assume things about you that aren't true, but it doesn't make you anything in particular. People do judge what you wear, though, and if you wear a shirt open down to your solar plexus at a job interview, you won't be taken seriously.
Another thing to keep in mind is that not everyone who's looking is necessarily going to be who you want looking. If you wear teeny booty shorts and a cropped top to the mall, the cute guy at the bookstore will look, but so will the sweaty, smelly perv who plays pocket pool in the store's history section. You don't get to choose who looks at you when you display a lot of skin. If you're okay with that, more power to you and wear what makes you happy, but don't get selectively mad at Mr. Perv when he leers.
My mom gave me great advice when I was younger: "Show off boobs or legs, but never both at once if you want people to take you seriously."
Is it normal that I love attention?
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I think it's normal to enjoy appreciative looks from other people, but I'd argue that if you're wearing tiny clothes specifically to attract attention, it's disingenuous to say you don't seek it. Shorts that don't show the lowermost curve of your buttcheeks are no less comfortable than short shorts; they're arguably a lot more comfortable, especially if you sit on a leather seat or a hot metal park bench.
Wearing provocative clothes sometimes doesn't make you a "slut." It might make people assume things about you that aren't true, but it doesn't make you anything in particular. People do judge what you wear, though, and if you wear a shirt open down to your solar plexus at a job interview, you won't be taken seriously.
Another thing to keep in mind is that not everyone who's looking is necessarily going to be who you want looking. If you wear teeny booty shorts and a cropped top to the mall, the cute guy at the bookstore will look, but so will the sweaty, smelly perv who plays pocket pool in the store's history section. You don't get to choose who looks at you when you display a lot of skin. If you're okay with that, more power to you and wear what makes you happy, but don't get selectively mad at Mr. Perv when he leers.
My mom gave me great advice when I was younger: "Show off boobs or legs, but never both at once if you want people to take you seriously."
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