Is it normal that i love anal stimulation?

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When I had my first sexual relationship we were both virgins. This led to a great deal of experimentation. The activity that stands out is anal stimulation. When my GF and I would "do" each other, (sexually gratify manually) she would get my genitalia lubricated to avoid friction form her hand. On one particular instance, she inserted a finger into my anus. I just about came off the floor! When I eventually had an orgasm, I came in buckets. We tried it the other way around but she did not care for anal stimulation at all. She could not relax her spincter enough. Over time this became a regular part of our sexual experience. After finding out she was screwing guy while I was in Viet Nam we divorced. Luckily the next woman I dated also love to give and receive anal stimulation. But in the past few years since my wife does not enjoy anal, oral, positional, etc, sex I go at anal masturbation alone. I went from "objects" to sophisticated dildo/vibrators so as not to risk an object getting lost in my rectum. The orgasms from this type of sexual activity is addictive!! My next step or goal is to find a woman who will use a strap on to screw me in the anus. None of my desire to have anal stimulation is related to me. I have had time to think about it as well as discuss it with a sex counselor. But am I still normal??

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  • dengxioping01
    13 years ago | pl

    What I should do at this point is describe the activity I engage in so others interested in anal masturbation may get an idea of what it is like. First, I purchased a dildo/vibe that is 8" x 5". The length and the circumference works very well with ample lubrication. Beginners may wish to start with a smaller device. I at one time worked my way up to a 10" x 6.5" dildo/vibe. That was too large because I was sore afterwards. The 8" does not cause any sorness at all. I have a special place where I can be alone and private when no one is home. The counter top is the exact height so that I can fasten the dildo/vibe with its suction cup to the counter top. Once secure and ready to go, I take the time usually with a surgical glove to lubricate my anus and inside my rectum with vasoline and KY. As long as I am not using a condom onthe dildo/vibe it is okay. Slowly I lubricate my anus and rectum as best I can; typically I can get three fingers intomy rectum with the gloves on and apply a good amount of lube. After lubricating my body, I change gloves and lubricate the dildo/vibrator with KY Jelly. Here I do not use vasoline at all. At this point I am beginning to become erect and sexually excited. But for me, I avoid touching my penis until the last moment. Now I am ready to insert the dildo/vibe into my rectum. As I described above, the counter height with the dildo/vibe attached is the exact height where I an stand over it and lower myself onto the dildo/vibe. That usually takes at least two attempts. Since I do not use anal masturbation frequently, my anus rapidly returns to its original elasticity and it needs to be stretched. So I will lower my self on the dildo/vibe about half-way and come off of it. Sometimes it is uncomfortable but mostly not. Now I am ready for the deed! Once I am back over the dildo/vibe I am more relaxed and more excited. I still have not touched my penis at this point. Usually my erection is gone. But I slide the dildo/vibe all the way into my rectum and just sit on it for awhile. Then I begin to rock back and forth to get used to the fullness. Once I am comfortable with the dildo/vibe being deep inside me, I turn on the multi-speed vibration device. The vibrator is about half way up the dildo/vibe. This allows the vibration to reach the prostate gland and thus causing a knock out orgasm. But getting to the orgasm takes a good 15-20 minutes of up and down, back and forth movement along with manipulation of my penis. Then I can feel the orgasm building in my lower spine and spreading through my genitals. I usually ejaculate so much sperm that I think I may dehydrate! In addition the orgasm lasts for at least 5 minutes. Then there is after play: I allow the vibrator to continue until my orgasm is completely gone. Before I turn it off, I rock back and forth and up and down very gently so I can allow the dildo/vibe to come out of my anus. Then I spend 15-20 minutes cleaning all my stuff!

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    • Sense
      13 years ago | pl

      Your story look like written by me as I follows the same steps, except, two fingers to lube rectrum, I use one finger, I havent got a viabrator. So use only 8" didldo. Also I use to stimulate and soften the rectrum with a prostate massager which I bought to touch g-spot (prostate massaging does seem not working for me). This stimulation is done before inserting the dildo. Interestingly counter top or table top is the best place to position me to go back and forth. Also I have found out, straping the dildo in to ironing board make me feel playing with somebody else. This experiment was done when I wasn in a hotel and I enjoy it. Regarding orgasm, I try to delay ejaculation as much as possible to play with dildo several hours. Now I am thinking of buying different shapes of sex toys, to feel a different stimulation. Enjoy anal masterbation. If you do more experiments, please let us know too. Cheers

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    • UnabashedUser
      6 years ago | pl

      Exactly. I've into anal since a teen and balling a tight vagina or ass while having a substantial anal plug in is the best and produce prodigeous amounts of cum. If the woman has plugged her ass with a sizeable dildo it's even better. If she has a female friend with either a strapon or a vibe/dild even better yet.

      For solo encounters I use the handle of a colgate electric toothbrush inside a lubed condom. You will see stars it's that good.

      Anal is a good thing if approached cautiously and with intelligence.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Totally normal. And you said you are no longer with a woman? If so then honestly it's not that hard nowadays to find a chick that's willing to put on a strap on for her man. If you do have a woman then I would suggest staying away from other women.

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    • dengxioping01
      13 years ago | pl

      EVA, I am still with a woman, but she is a non-participant in any anal, oral, non-vanilla sex. I am very careful who I spend time with intimately!

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  • bazwell
    13 years ago | pl

    There is nothing abnormal about anal stimulation in and of itself. As you indicated, it can be a gratifying sexual act if some minor precautions are taken. There are issues of the stigma attached to men who identify themselves as straight yet enjoy partaking in any form of anal penetration. Be aware and prepared for this. Anal sex IS a highly risky sexual act because of the lack of natural lubrication of the anal canal and the risk of things getting lodged in the anus during masturbation.

    I recommend that you proceed with caution when partaking in any kind of anal stimulation; Do as much research as you can about anal stimulation for heterosexual and/or bisexual men; continue to enjoy your sexual discovery!

    best of luck to you!

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    • dengxioping01
      13 years ago | pl

      I am quite certain I use more than enough lubrication on both my dildo/vibe and my anal tissue inside and outside. Over time I have learned the flavored and sensitized lubricants cause me to have an allergic reaction. I stick with the normal lubes: KY is my favorite. When I was into getting the most girth into my anal play I used vasoline on the large dildo/vibes. I have backed off on the girth.

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  • dengxioping01
    13 years ago | pl

    Cheers:
    Thanks for the feedback. It is stimulating to know someone else enjoys the same relaxation that I do. I have backed off from my activity due to problems in the marriage. Seems like this activity has replaced activity with the mate! At least that is her claim, even though she does not know when I masturbate! Anyway thank you very much for your reply. Cheers.

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  • dengxioping01
    13 years ago | pl

    Thanks for the heads-up on the carefulness of anal sex. It is always on my mind. Years a go I had surgery to repair an anal fissure (tear in the rectum). That was extremely painful and I never wish to experience that again.

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  • dengxioping01
    13 years ago | pl

    I am still ina relationship with a woman. However, she refuses to engage in anything not missionary sex: anal, oral, positional, mutual masturbation, etc. I am working very hard not to go outside my relationship. Consequently, there are numerous opportunities to meet a strap on partner. Sometimes it is like walking on eggs. Writing about my experiences typically help me stay on the task.

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