Just because you were sexually abused, doesn't mean you were done so against your will or violently.
I imagine your experience is more common than we realise, simply because most victims would not wish to admit that. It could be misconstrued as absolving the guilty parties, and of course it is a private detail most outside those involved would not be privy to anyway.
We often imagine child abuse in a sort of cartoonish black and white situation - the nasty paedophile grabbing the innocent child and forcing them to do horrible things. The reality is sometimes more grey than that.
Of course, it makes no difference on the legal implications, and shouldn't do so. The adult makes the choice to engage in sexual activity with a child legally incapable of consenting. Regardless of whether or not it was a mutually pleasurable experience, the basic principle that a kid cannot agree to sex is an important safe-guard for children.
Anyway, rant over. I honestly don't think any of us can say if it's normal or not, because, as I say, most would not admit it publicly if it were true. But it's a preferable position for you to be in from a victim's point of view - you can probably move on easily, without the same lingering repercussions some victims of entirely unpleasant, traumatic abuse will have to tackle :)
iin that I liked having sex with an adult neighbor when I was 11 & 12?
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Just because you were sexually abused, doesn't mean you were done so against your will or violently.
I imagine your experience is more common than we realise, simply because most victims would not wish to admit that. It could be misconstrued as absolving the guilty parties, and of course it is a private detail most outside those involved would not be privy to anyway.
We often imagine child abuse in a sort of cartoonish black and white situation - the nasty paedophile grabbing the innocent child and forcing them to do horrible things. The reality is sometimes more grey than that.
Of course, it makes no difference on the legal implications, and shouldn't do so. The adult makes the choice to engage in sexual activity with a child legally incapable of consenting. Regardless of whether or not it was a mutually pleasurable experience, the basic principle that a kid cannot agree to sex is an important safe-guard for children.
Anyway, rant over. I honestly don't think any of us can say if it's normal or not, because, as I say, most would not admit it publicly if it were true. But it's a preferable position for you to be in from a victim's point of view - you can probably move on easily, without the same lingering repercussions some victims of entirely unpleasant, traumatic abuse will have to tackle :)