I don't agree with it at all, and I think it is awful, I think it is low, and I think it is a terrible lack of empathy on your part. But ultimately, you can't be blames for his infedelity. If it's not you, it would be another woman.
But ultimately, HE is the one ruining his relationship, not you. HE is looking for the one night stand, HE is the only one that has the obligation to the woman, not you. HE is the one that owes it to his woman to be loyal, and, in essence, HE is the homewrecker, the one ruining the relationship, YOU are simply the catalyst that he is using to do it. No one MAKES a man cheat.
So while I still think it is terrible that women would do this, and that it DOES show a horrible lack of empathy for the other woman ("it's not MY problem"), being that I am more conservative and don't believe in promiscuity of that sort, I can't say anything to you about how you live your life. Cheating is a terrible, fucked up thing but the cheating partner is worse and no matter who he is fucking, it's obvious.
The relationship is over.
Although I have been in a situation in which I got into a fight with my best girl friend and my boyfriend at the same time, and she sexted him until he came over and fucked her. I blamed them both equally. That was fucked up. But that's what they wanted to do and I didn't want them in my life. Hence, why I dropped them both. This is the 2nd time that one of my more promiscuous friends has gotten with my boyfriends. That's just low.
see, thats something i would NEVER do, and don't understand. To people i know, i do feel an obligation, and even if a friend asked me to "see" if her boyfriend WOULD cheat on her, i would never go all the way.
but i am glad for your first 2 paragraphs, you summed it up so well, and yet so few people seem to understand this.
i feel sorry for what happened to you, and even more sorry that a discussion such as this must bring up memories of that. All the more i thank you for trying to judge fairly, and not downright insult without even considering our position. If anybody here would HAVE a right to do that, it would be you- thanks again for being fair, even if you do have(very understandably) a different opinion.
is it normal that i like being the other one?
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I don't agree with it at all, and I think it is awful, I think it is low, and I think it is a terrible lack of empathy on your part. But ultimately, you can't be blames for his infedelity. If it's not you, it would be another woman.
But ultimately, HE is the one ruining his relationship, not you. HE is looking for the one night stand, HE is the only one that has the obligation to the woman, not you. HE is the one that owes it to his woman to be loyal, and, in essence, HE is the homewrecker, the one ruining the relationship, YOU are simply the catalyst that he is using to do it. No one MAKES a man cheat.
So while I still think it is terrible that women would do this, and that it DOES show a horrible lack of empathy for the other woman ("it's not MY problem"), being that I am more conservative and don't believe in promiscuity of that sort, I can't say anything to you about how you live your life. Cheating is a terrible, fucked up thing but the cheating partner is worse and no matter who he is fucking, it's obvious.
The relationship is over.
Although I have been in a situation in which I got into a fight with my best girl friend and my boyfriend at the same time, and she sexted him until he came over and fucked her. I blamed them both equally. That was fucked up. But that's what they wanted to do and I didn't want them in my life. Hence, why I dropped them both. This is the 2nd time that one of my more promiscuous friends has gotten with my boyfriends. That's just low.
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see, thats something i would NEVER do, and don't understand. To people i know, i do feel an obligation, and even if a friend asked me to "see" if her boyfriend WOULD cheat on her, i would never go all the way.
but i am glad for your first 2 paragraphs, you summed it up so well, and yet so few people seem to understand this.
i feel sorry for what happened to you, and even more sorry that a discussion such as this must bring up memories of that. All the more i thank you for trying to judge fairly, and not downright insult without even considering our position. If anybody here would HAVE a right to do that, it would be you- thanks again for being fair, even if you do have(very understandably) a different opinion.