Is it normal that i let my girlfriend have sex in a club.
I have a beautiful girlfriend, who is well educated and exciting to me. We share our thoughts and are pretty much open to one another. She will tell me what excites her, and what’s on her mind. This way I learned she fantasises about other men. When we have sex, she doesn’t want to kiss me and she fantasises I’m someone else. She prefers me to fondle her breasts while she uses a dildo. Then she tells me what kind of situation is on her mind, and what men are part of it. She always thinks of some masculine man, usually dominant, making her do things. She doesn’t want another relationship she says, “it’s only a sexual thing”.
A short while ago she suggested to go to a sexclub one time to try it… Although it excites me somehow that my girlfriend has these fantasies, letting her really do it was a new thing and it gave me a strange feeling on my stomach.. The fact that she spent a long time on make up and choosing the right dress, made me feel she wasn’t mine anymore. I suggested her not giving herself away that easy, and try with one man first. As we joined in with the clubnight, it became clear she was the prettiest girl around, making a lot of men come after us, in whatever place we went to watch other people do it. Then she asked me if I mind she went upstairs alone. Although I consented, I couldn’t resist to check, but I couldn hardly see her, because of the long line of obviously hungry men. Some recognised me as the partner and were sympathetic to me I guess, saying something like ‘your girlfriend really get’s it tonight’ and ‘..I’ve never met a couple in which the woman is the only active person..’
That night she has been taken by three men. She ’s happy with the experience and thinks she might want to do it again.. but it ’s giving me questions. On one hand i love her, and want her to live her fantasy, on the other hand it gives me doubt about whether I’m the right partner for her..