Is it normal that i lack the "urge" to be in a relationship?

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It's just that.

I see my friends with their bfs/gfs and their breakup habits, others with their "better halves" and their kids, and I just can't picture myself being involved that way with another person.

I like being alone and being able to reflect on life in my own ways. The insight of others is welcome, but in the end, it's my life and I want to be the only one living it.

Is it possible that I'm too selfish with myself? When it comes to sharing, there's never a problem, but when it comes to sex, I don't like to share myself...kissing, oral, etc...this "v-card" is mine, and mine only.

Don't get me wrong though. Human interactions are welcome, else I wouldn't even be looking for it in the smallest sense by being on this site. Perhaps I've emotionally detached myself? Hmm.

Seeing and hearing how many people are getting into relationships, getting married, having kids, etc...feels as though I'm getting left behind in that sense, but I've no particular urge to change this.

Now, as the majority of my close-friends don't understand my situation...maybe you do?

Seeing as how the people I'm surrounded by all strive to find "the one", is it normal that I do not feel the need to have this?

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago | pl

    There's nothing wrong or abnormal about feeling like this, even though society may beg to differ.

    If you're happy, then continue doing what you're doing.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      Thank you.
      Now I can go listen to some Nirvana in peace.

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      • pandabear1209
        11 years ago | pl

        Yay nirvana =] I see nuthing wrong with the way you think, to each their own. I have no desire for a relationship or marriage but I do have desires for sex he he ;)

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      • Cobrakitnu
        12 years ago | pl

        (:

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I can understand your point of view and I will in no way recommend you to change it. The way you view your life is interesting and frankly more people should be like you, at least that's what I believe. Take care in your life and hopefully you benefit the human race with your ideas.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      How encouraging of you :)

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  • dom180
    12 years ago | pl

    I wouldn't say that its 'normal', but as long as you feel happy about your life then there doesn't seem to be a problem. :)

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  • mango262
    12 years ago | pl

    I think its ABSOLUTELY normal.
    Infact, its good. It shows a sign of self-confidence. and also, you are strong enough to walk alone in the path of life..
    You are not emotionally dependant on anybody.. I dont think everybody needs to commit to a relationship, its a personal choice..

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      Thanks for helping not make me feel like a creep :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm glad someone posted this. I feel exactly the same dude. Emotional detachment, its something I started developing in my early teens and I think its become part of who I am now.. I just want everything to be superficial, sex, relationships, friends. I dont know why I behave this way, but I can't stop it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      If you understood completely, then you wouldn't want sex or relationships be they superficial or not.
      Thanks for your insight though :)

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  • WhatTheFunk
    11 years ago | pl

    I feel the same way. What bugs me is people trying to force me into not being that way. They just need to leave me alone and let me live my life the way I choose to.

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  • JFreeman1123
    12 years ago | pl

    I feel the same exact way, so I think so.

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