Sounds like you're going for nice guys that are a little too nice, too eager to please & scared of losing you if they disagree with anything you say or have a different point of view to you.
Any chance both of these guys are a bit inexperienced with relationships?
I agree with others that these are good qualities in moderation & they sound like great guys but I know from experience that a lot of girls hate pushovers.
With what he said about them being scared to lose you, make sure you arent putting out vibes that suggest that you will leave if they disagree. Some people do that and arent even aware that they are doing it. So it makes theyre partner feel like they have to agree or lose you.
OK that's sort of normal then IMO.
They're likely desperate to impress & think that agreeing with every word you say & never opposing you will help...
Common misconception for young blokes.
I've done similar before when I was younger & at the time you sometimes don't even realise you're doing it, you're just so infatuated.
Did you ever tell either of them that you thought they were not being themselves?
Obviously you want someone nice, who treats you like they did, but at the same time confident enough to have & voice their own views.
IIN that I keep falling for the same type of guys?
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Sounds like you're going for nice guys that are a little too nice, too eager to please & scared of losing you if they disagree with anything you say or have a different point of view to you.
Any chance both of these guys are a bit inexperienced with relationships?
I agree with others that these are good qualities in moderation & they sound like great guys but I know from experience that a lot of girls hate pushovers.
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Correct. They were both inexperienced.
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With what he said about them being scared to lose you, make sure you arent putting out vibes that suggest that you will leave if they disagree. Some people do that and arent even aware that they are doing it. So it makes theyre partner feel like they have to agree or lose you.
OK that's sort of normal then IMO.
They're likely desperate to impress & think that agreeing with every word you say & never opposing you will help...
Common misconception for young blokes.
I've done similar before when I was younger & at the time you sometimes don't even realise you're doing it, you're just so infatuated.
Did you ever tell either of them that you thought they were not being themselves?
Obviously you want someone nice, who treats you like they did, but at the same time confident enough to have & voice their own views.