Is it normal that i have very low self confidence?

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From a very young age I've always had confidence issues and it's plagued me most of my life.

From when I was little standing up in front of the class was a daunting task, I'd do anything to avoid it, even skip school if I could. I remember some guy coming into school teaching us how to brick lay, I was only 9-10 years old, when we took it in turns I'd keep going to the back incase I messed up, avoiding my turn every time.

Even to this day going for an exam (driving theory) I set myself up to fail, I don't think what it would be like to pass.

Looking at jobs to do, I always choose the easiest and shittest job there is in case I make a mistake and worry what people will think of me. I'd rather be in a job that pays minimum wage, then going for a well paid job where I think if I mess up people will give me a weird look

Talking to people for the first time is a challenge for me, I can't open up and be myself unless I get to know them over time. They probably think I'm very ignorant and not very talkative when really I can chat for hours with people I am comfortable around

Even trivial things like phoning someone up to arrange a doctors appointment, leaving an answering phone message is very difficult, I have to coach myself what to say first incase I mess up

I worry about how I look, worry people think I'm stupid, I over analyze the most simple things and think people are watching me or I'm waiting for myself to fail

Am I just mental?

Is It Normal?
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Wow this is me to a t :) hopefully it's normal haha

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  • chucho
    13 years ago | pl

    im the same way... i have to many problems :/

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  • CarsGirlsGunsMoneyMade
    12 years ago | pl

    Count a 4 for me, man. This is a biatch.

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  • lilBlondeQTpie
    13 years ago | pl

    Hunni it's deff normal, you have two people up there saying those things are just as them. Now you have 3. While I was reading this I thought thats mee! Everything you said and think, is exectly as I do!
    I dont like to make phone calls (important or just to a friend) cuz I think that I might say something that is "wrong" and I have to coach myself on what to say just so I wont freeze up.
    You are normal and I think that getting out even if it seems scary will help, get around people who are positive and who like to talk. I've been trying to do that and I think it's working. 4-5 weeks ago I probly wouldn't have commented this cuz I thought that what I'd say would be no help. I mean it still might not be, but you get what I mean. lol
    Good luck! (:

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