I have a friend like this. She never bothered to try to connect. If she feels alienated, she just gives up and leaves the conversation, doesn't say much, or something. Try opening up more and try to understand others I guess? And they should do the same for you, try to understand where you're coming from and being open to your interests. I don't know. Good luck though.
She's still the same at times, she'd rather just stop talking or hanging out when she feels alienated. However, she's an (extremely) antisocial introvert and doesn't like talking much anyways. We usually talk about or do things of similar interests. That's the only way we can connect. If she doesn't understand something or isn't into it, whatever. She will listen to what I have to say of course, but that's it. If that's all she can do and handle when socializing, I don't mind. (But I am generally a chill person.) She's trying to get better at socializing though. Baby steps.
Sounds like she is just being herself. I'm not an extremely anti-social person but if I feel alienated I don't keep talking or forcing myself to hang out with someone. The older you get the more you realize how few the amount of people are that you really have stuff in common with AND how even that changes over time, say over 10 yrs time, etc. If your friend is comfortable with who she is, she probably won't change much. In my opinion its far easier to hang out with people who aren't constantly trying to dominate the conversation (like how your friends sounds to be)than people who monopolize to just talk about themselves. People like that are very draining to be around.
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I have a friend like this. She never bothered to try to connect. If she feels alienated, she just gives up and leaves the conversation, doesn't say much, or something. Try opening up more and try to understand others I guess? And they should do the same for you, try to understand where you're coming from and being open to your interests. I don't know. Good luck though.
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I'm not OP, but I have a very similar problem. What happened to your friend?
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She's still the same at times, she'd rather just stop talking or hanging out when she feels alienated. However, she's an (extremely) antisocial introvert and doesn't like talking much anyways. We usually talk about or do things of similar interests. That's the only way we can connect. If she doesn't understand something or isn't into it, whatever. She will listen to what I have to say of course, but that's it. If that's all she can do and handle when socializing, I don't mind. (But I am generally a chill person.) She's trying to get better at socializing though. Baby steps.
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Sounds like she is just being herself. I'm not an extremely anti-social person but if I feel alienated I don't keep talking or forcing myself to hang out with someone. The older you get the more you realize how few the amount of people are that you really have stuff in common with AND how even that changes over time, say over 10 yrs time, etc. If your friend is comfortable with who she is, she probably won't change much. In my opinion its far easier to hang out with people who aren't constantly trying to dominate the conversation (like how your friends sounds to be)than people who monopolize to just talk about themselves. People like that are very draining to be around.