I thank each of you for your advice and wisdom. I've never thought that having a child will 'throw away' anything. I know that there will be times when I won't know what to do. When they're sick and you feel helpless because you can't do anything about it except take them to a doctor. When they get hurt and you blame yourself for not scrutinizing everything they were doing. I know it won't be a walk in the park, so to speak, but I truly believe I am ready to take this step in my life. Some people were born to be architects or teachers or anything in between, I've always known I was born to be a mother.
I like the thought of "It's sometimes wiser to wait and be right than to see and be wrong." It's a very insightful comment. Full of truth and wisdom that may seem beyond my years. I admit that I am young. That it may be better for me to wait. But I've never been afraid of a challenge. I've always sacrificed anything needed to protect someone or help someone I love.
"Grandma" will NOT raise my child. I believe, that if I am able to HAVE a child, I should be able to raise it. I think that's the way it should be. I merely commented that my mother would be available to help if I ever needed it. Commented this to show that I have the support I need. Even though that means having to make sacrifices in MY life to do so, I'm ready for it. If this means having to put off college for a while. I'm willing to do that. I was raised by two wonderful parents who constantly instilled in me that love can not pay the bills. It takes hard work. Believe me, my father is the hardest working man I have ever known. This is just one of many things that I have inherited from him. Also, the ability to love something and want to provide for that something with every ounce of my being no matter what stands in the way. If I need money, I will find it. If I need guidance, I will find it. But I will NOT let my child go without because of me.
I'm an intelligent woman. I am determined and nothing can change my mind if I have my heart set on it. I am not like other 'teenagers' that live in some dream world. I very much live in and realize reality. Reality isn't easy. It is not easy without a child and is a hell of a lot harder with one. But I'm ready to find out.
Is it normal that I have these feelings?
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I thank each of you for your advice and wisdom. I've never thought that having a child will 'throw away' anything. I know that there will be times when I won't know what to do. When they're sick and you feel helpless because you can't do anything about it except take them to a doctor. When they get hurt and you blame yourself for not scrutinizing everything they were doing. I know it won't be a walk in the park, so to speak, but I truly believe I am ready to take this step in my life. Some people were born to be architects or teachers or anything in between, I've always known I was born to be a mother.
I like the thought of "It's sometimes wiser to wait and be right than to see and be wrong." It's a very insightful comment. Full of truth and wisdom that may seem beyond my years. I admit that I am young. That it may be better for me to wait. But I've never been afraid of a challenge. I've always sacrificed anything needed to protect someone or help someone I love.
"Grandma" will NOT raise my child. I believe, that if I am able to HAVE a child, I should be able to raise it. I think that's the way it should be. I merely commented that my mother would be available to help if I ever needed it. Commented this to show that I have the support I need. Even though that means having to make sacrifices in MY life to do so, I'm ready for it. If this means having to put off college for a while. I'm willing to do that. I was raised by two wonderful parents who constantly instilled in me that love can not pay the bills. It takes hard work. Believe me, my father is the hardest working man I have ever known. This is just one of many things that I have inherited from him. Also, the ability to love something and want to provide for that something with every ounce of my being no matter what stands in the way. If I need money, I will find it. If I need guidance, I will find it. But I will NOT let my child go without because of me.
I'm an intelligent woman. I am determined and nothing can change my mind if I have my heart set on it. I am not like other 'teenagers' that live in some dream world. I very much live in and realize reality. Reality isn't easy. It is not easy without a child and is a hell of a lot harder with one. But I'm ready to find out.