So then now let's pretend you *have* considered every conceivable outcome and contingency... does being ABLE to do these things necessarily follow that you MUST do these things NOW? You're barely a child yourself - pity you are so anxious to throw that away (as it cannot be retrieved), and seemingly only because you seem to want to be needed (another flag - this sounds like a potentially messy neuroses). One might suggest that you first take some time to discover the virtue that is Failure; without this, success can barely be pursued, much less attained.
You may commonly hear that there is no such thing as "ready" to become a parent. I agree with this. But I also believe that people should f***ing well know if they're "ready enough." You haven't even gone through the wee little challenge that is college yet, nevermind marriage (also something that is unpredictable)... much less the epicness of full-tilt adulthood, building your own life... one indeed wonders how prepared you could really be. You've made little more than just love and some good vibes in you life up to this point... and already you think you're so well equipped to take on the grandest thing any of us could ever do.
To be fair, however, this may indeed be your path in life. But if that is true, it will happen despite your efforts elsewhere; thus, you needn't force the situation by acting on impulse or out of desperation to escape an emptiness. I'm not so much a religious person, but I have often found a fair bit of truth in the saying "the best way to make God laugh is to tell him your plans." You'd be wise to consider and appreciate the brevity of that idea. And in the event that you are a person without such faith or idea of spirituality, than I would suggest that you take care to better scrutinize and vet your logic, and your true capabilities - there seem to be clearly marked flaws in your posted formula. And after all, a person who is so sure, I imagine, would not be asking for a second opinion on the internets. So yeah, sure, this is normal enough - but commonly does not guarantee or suggest a margin of success. It's sometimes wiser to wait and be right than to see and be wrong.
Is it normal that I have these feelings?
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So then now let's pretend you *have* considered every conceivable outcome and contingency... does being ABLE to do these things necessarily follow that you MUST do these things NOW? You're barely a child yourself - pity you are so anxious to throw that away (as it cannot be retrieved), and seemingly only because you seem to want to be needed (another flag - this sounds like a potentially messy neuroses). One might suggest that you first take some time to discover the virtue that is Failure; without this, success can barely be pursued, much less attained.
You may commonly hear that there is no such thing as "ready" to become a parent. I agree with this. But I also believe that people should f***ing well know if they're "ready enough." You haven't even gone through the wee little challenge that is college yet, nevermind marriage (also something that is unpredictable)... much less the epicness of full-tilt adulthood, building your own life... one indeed wonders how prepared you could really be. You've made little more than just love and some good vibes in you life up to this point... and already you think you're so well equipped to take on the grandest thing any of us could ever do.
To be fair, however, this may indeed be your path in life. But if that is true, it will happen despite your efforts elsewhere; thus, you needn't force the situation by acting on impulse or out of desperation to escape an emptiness. I'm not so much a religious person, but I have often found a fair bit of truth in the saying "the best way to make God laugh is to tell him your plans." You'd be wise to consider and appreciate the brevity of that idea. And in the event that you are a person without such faith or idea of spirituality, than I would suggest that you take care to better scrutinize and vet your logic, and your true capabilities - there seem to be clearly marked flaws in your posted formula. And after all, a person who is so sure, I imagine, would not be asking for a second opinion on the internets. So yeah, sure, this is normal enough - but commonly does not guarantee or suggest a margin of success. It's sometimes wiser to wait and be right than to see and be wrong.
Good luck.
//T