It's not a big deal finding someone that wants me, I dont want that. I want someone I notice. I dont want to make compromises.
When a girl likes me, it makes it okay for me to make a compromise to be with her. Why shouldn't it be okay for a girl to make a compromise and be with me ?
Because, she's already with someone, she can't exactly leave someone she loves for you, I mean you haven't even had a proper conversation with her. And if a girl likes you, you don't have to be with her, you could always let her down gently. No one has to Make compromises to be with someone, its called love, if you BOTH love each other then its not a compromise its a choice :) x
I've let down quite a few then I guess. And I see you're talking about mutual feelings here, which never occurred for me. It was either she didn't even look at me, or me not giving a fk for some average looking girl.
I know it sounds shallow, and it probably is, but still, I am not one of those guys that develops feelings overtime, it's more like, I like her or not, the very first few mins. And don't start with the "personality" attitude, because I've given them a chance, we've talked and talked and all I've seen is insecurity, and I don't want someone that's insecure.
I'm well prepared to suck it up and rather stay single then be with someone average that I don't find attractive at all.
Good for you then! Its sort of shallow to like someone because of the way they look, for all you know she could be the biggest bitch ever! But its a normal thing all people do, we judge from what we see on the outside. And yeah you're right, if you're with someone but you're not happy because they're not attractive enough for you then yeah you should just suck it up and stay single because you shouldn't deserve her if looks is all you care about.
You sound like one of those "pretty on the inside" girls. Which is ok. But don't push it with the "you don't deserve her" bullshit. I'm not a shallow cunt that cares ONLY for looks, but if i'm not attracted to someone, why should I compromise by telling myself she has a great personality ( having a good personality is nice, but most are insecure as fuck, because of their looks ) .
I'm not gonna build her confidence by saying she's pretty when she aint. Nobody told me I was good looking till i worked my ass off in the gym, actually hitting relatively good grades on faculty, or improving my personality and life in general. Well, nobody except my parents, without them i wouldn't be capable of achieving shit.
And I see you're going over the bullshit that is called "love". Who said I'm looking for love ? Even if I am, i could've found "love" from someone which is less secure than me, less smart, quiet ( i hate when i'm the only one talking ), worse looking than me ( See where I've put the looks ? ).
All I want to say is, i don't want a goddess, but someone that leaves an impression that she is secure enough to not ask me if she looks good in this or that, but to KNOW that she looks good or bad in it.
But, I've dealt with the fact that they're hard to find, and can't care less for other women.
We are attracted to looks, but remain together because of our personalities.
Coolio, and fyi girls dont ask if they look good or bad in something because theyre insecure, they ask because they're not sure and a helpful opinion from someone else doesn't matter. I mean I ask for opinions but it doesn't mean that I'm insecure, I just wnt to know what someone else thinks of it. And regardless of whether or not they like it, I stick with what I want and what I like, asking for an opinion does not show insecurity.
And sometimes its just nice to be called beautiful by someone you love, even if you know you're 'attractive' its just a nice feeling knowing that someone else thinks so too.
And It sound to me the type of person your 'looking for' is a self centred bitch, good luck finding one of those.
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I see you've taken the "Looking good in this/that" metaphor too far. It was aimed at the fact that I don't, and never will, want someone insecure.
Why would you ask for someones opinion, if you're gonna do what you've planned in the first place ? Why would you ever do that ? That's illogical. You'd probably be insulted by someone saying "your ass is to big" in that etc.
I would. But then again, you'd probably comfort yourself with the "I'm happy with the way I look, I don't want to change what mother nature gave me". Thats such shit too. I hate what mother nature gave me, I had nothing, I now have only a small portion of what I'd like to have, and probably will never achieve my goals. Same goes with women, if I cant have what I'm aiming at, why would I settle myself with bones, even tho i wanted some meat ? ( not aiming at skinny girls, since you take everything literally ) .
And no, I don't want a narrow minded bitch, but, i either don't want someone to love me first, and then I make a compromise and, partially fall in love with her ?
Why cant someone I like, make a compromise for me ? Even tho I may sound like a bad, mean, stubborn, self centered ape, I'm not. I can be, but i'm not.
Why couldn't the few that i liked say "Oh well, he seems average on the outside, but is really this&that on the inside" ? And, why should I then do the same for someone else again? That's right, world is a shitty shallow place, i might as well be shallow like everyone else.
IIN that I have the same crush for over 3 years?
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It's not a big deal finding someone that wants me, I dont want that. I want someone I notice. I dont want to make compromises.
When a girl likes me, it makes it okay for me to make a compromise to be with her. Why shouldn't it be okay for a girl to make a compromise and be with me ?
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Because, she's already with someone, she can't exactly leave someone she loves for you, I mean you haven't even had a proper conversation with her. And if a girl likes you, you don't have to be with her, you could always let her down gently. No one has to Make compromises to be with someone, its called love, if you BOTH love each other then its not a compromise its a choice :) x
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I've let down quite a few then I guess. And I see you're talking about mutual feelings here, which never occurred for me. It was either she didn't even look at me, or me not giving a fk for some average looking girl.
I know it sounds shallow, and it probably is, but still, I am not one of those guys that develops feelings overtime, it's more like, I like her or not, the very first few mins. And don't start with the "personality" attitude, because I've given them a chance, we've talked and talked and all I've seen is insecurity, and I don't want someone that's insecure.
I'm well prepared to suck it up and rather stay single then be with someone average that I don't find attractive at all.
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Good for you then! Its sort of shallow to like someone because of the way they look, for all you know she could be the biggest bitch ever! But its a normal thing all people do, we judge from what we see on the outside. And yeah you're right, if you're with someone but you're not happy because they're not attractive enough for you then yeah you should just suck it up and stay single because you shouldn't deserve her if looks is all you care about.
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You sound like one of those "pretty on the inside" girls. Which is ok. But don't push it with the "you don't deserve her" bullshit. I'm not a shallow cunt that cares ONLY for looks, but if i'm not attracted to someone, why should I compromise by telling myself she has a great personality ( having a good personality is nice, but most are insecure as fuck, because of their looks ) .
I'm not gonna build her confidence by saying she's pretty when she aint. Nobody told me I was good looking till i worked my ass off in the gym, actually hitting relatively good grades on faculty, or improving my personality and life in general. Well, nobody except my parents, without them i wouldn't be capable of achieving shit.
And I see you're going over the bullshit that is called "love". Who said I'm looking for love ? Even if I am, i could've found "love" from someone which is less secure than me, less smart, quiet ( i hate when i'm the only one talking ), worse looking than me ( See where I've put the looks ? ).
All I want to say is, i don't want a goddess, but someone that leaves an impression that she is secure enough to not ask me if she looks good in this or that, but to KNOW that she looks good or bad in it.
But, I've dealt with the fact that they're hard to find, and can't care less for other women.
We are attracted to looks, but remain together because of our personalities.
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Coolio, and fyi girls dont ask if they look good or bad in something because theyre insecure, they ask because they're not sure and a helpful opinion from someone else doesn't matter. I mean I ask for opinions but it doesn't mean that I'm insecure, I just wnt to know what someone else thinks of it. And regardless of whether or not they like it, I stick with what I want and what I like, asking for an opinion does not show insecurity.
And sometimes its just nice to be called beautiful by someone you love, even if you know you're 'attractive' its just a nice feeling knowing that someone else thinks so too.
And It sound to me the type of person your 'looking for' is a self centred bitch, good luck finding one of those.
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Sorry for the late response bruh.
I see you've taken the "Looking good in this/that" metaphor too far. It was aimed at the fact that I don't, and never will, want someone insecure.
Why would you ask for someones opinion, if you're gonna do what you've planned in the first place ? Why would you ever do that ? That's illogical. You'd probably be insulted by someone saying "your ass is to big" in that etc.
I would. But then again, you'd probably comfort yourself with the "I'm happy with the way I look, I don't want to change what mother nature gave me". Thats such shit too. I hate what mother nature gave me, I had nothing, I now have only a small portion of what I'd like to have, and probably will never achieve my goals. Same goes with women, if I cant have what I'm aiming at, why would I settle myself with bones, even tho i wanted some meat ? ( not aiming at skinny girls, since you take everything literally ) .
And no, I don't want a narrow minded bitch, but, i either don't want someone to love me first, and then I make a compromise and, partially fall in love with her ?
Why cant someone I like, make a compromise for me ? Even tho I may sound like a bad, mean, stubborn, self centered ape, I'm not. I can be, but i'm not.
Why couldn't the few that i liked say "Oh well, he seems average on the outside, but is really this&that on the inside" ? And, why should I then do the same for someone else again? That's right, world is a shitty shallow place, i might as well be shallow like everyone else.