Sorry, OP. I didn't factor in that English might not be your native language and that you might just write in this style. I'm a high school teacher of English as a foreign language and most of my 18-year-olds' English has more flagrant errors in it, so you'd really know it was their second language. What matters more to me than their English though is that they're safe and happy and well-equipped to go through life, and that their dignity is respected. That's why I went crazy just now when it seemed to me like a perverted older person was trying to spin a titillating story about a teenage girl, presumably to touch him/herself to.
As for the issue of touching yourself, I can only speak for myself. I'm 31 and single and I have never slept with anyone, out of choice.
I'd say I personally regret having started masturbating. It's just another bodily appetite crying out at you, like an appetite for food, and it tricks you into thinking you HAVE to satisfy it, when actually, unlike with food, you don't HAVE to do anything about it at all. You won't die by not masturbating.
Masturbation can become an annoying thing where you've got the urge to do it, but at the same time you don't really want to do it, but it feels like a compulsion so you tend to give in anyway. You know, like when you start eating because you're bored and then you can't stop even though you're full? In my experience masturbation feels good immediately after you finish, perhaps in the same way as scratching an itch feels good, but for me, about half an hour afterwards or less, I just feel empty and my thoughts are all clouded and unfocused. Sometimes even while I'm doing it, I hate doing it. But over time I have trained myself to crave the orgasm at the end and that's the only reason I do it.
When I imagine what my future sex life will be like, I can't imagine being happy to just enjoy my future husband without climaxing, since that's the only reason I'd masturbate. From what I've learned, real sex isn't like it is in films. It can't always end in climax, and to be honest, I don't want the objective of it to always be climax. I'd like to enjoy my future husband's body for its own sake and not just want my body to experience an orgasm all the time.
So basically, I'd say that touching oneself it's one of life's cheap thrills, but it becomes pretty mundane and it's habit-forming in frustrating ways.
I'll mention as an afterthought that I'm thankful I don't usually feel a need to use images. I wouldn't want to train my brain to associate sex with a particular kind of image or activity, and to only be satisfied with that. I don't want to desensitize myself to things of a mildly sexual nature and then have to progress to increasingly indecent and undignified images in order to get my orgasm 'fix'.
Now, I have tried to be as candid as possible because if you're a real 18-year-old young woman, you deserve frankness. Please remember to treat your own body with dignity and not tolerate any person who disrespects it or tries to push you into anything.
I see, so it is kind of addicting, becomes a habit. I have never done it and was wondering if it's really so weird since i'm a teenager with hormones and all. I have a best friend of 10 years and i recently told her about it and she was very surprised.It got me thinking if what i described is really that uncommon. I do not feel the need to touch myself even though i sometimes check adult content and get turned on, but it never goes beyond that. I did explain it more in one of my previous comments, so i guess i may define my sexuality as "demisexual" according to the tags in the world these days.
Thank you for your candid reply, it certainly helped me. I don't think I will do anything sexual with anybody until I'm certain of them, and I haven't done anything of sorts so far. I do respect my body and I plan to keep it that way.
People’s experiences vary and masterbation isn’t addictive for everyone. Some people, myself included, still rarely feel desire to despite knowing our bodies well.
Even if you have no interest in masterbation (which is completely ok) I recommend learning about the different parts of the vulva and vagina just so you are aware of your body.
IIN that i have never masturbated before?
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Sorry, OP. I didn't factor in that English might not be your native language and that you might just write in this style. I'm a high school teacher of English as a foreign language and most of my 18-year-olds' English has more flagrant errors in it, so you'd really know it was their second language. What matters more to me than their English though is that they're safe and happy and well-equipped to go through life, and that their dignity is respected. That's why I went crazy just now when it seemed to me like a perverted older person was trying to spin a titillating story about a teenage girl, presumably to touch him/herself to.
As for the issue of touching yourself, I can only speak for myself. I'm 31 and single and I have never slept with anyone, out of choice.
I'd say I personally regret having started masturbating. It's just another bodily appetite crying out at you, like an appetite for food, and it tricks you into thinking you HAVE to satisfy it, when actually, unlike with food, you don't HAVE to do anything about it at all. You won't die by not masturbating.
Masturbation can become an annoying thing where you've got the urge to do it, but at the same time you don't really want to do it, but it feels like a compulsion so you tend to give in anyway. You know, like when you start eating because you're bored and then you can't stop even though you're full? In my experience masturbation feels good immediately after you finish, perhaps in the same way as scratching an itch feels good, but for me, about half an hour afterwards or less, I just feel empty and my thoughts are all clouded and unfocused. Sometimes even while I'm doing it, I hate doing it. But over time I have trained myself to crave the orgasm at the end and that's the only reason I do it.
When I imagine what my future sex life will be like, I can't imagine being happy to just enjoy my future husband without climaxing, since that's the only reason I'd masturbate. From what I've learned, real sex isn't like it is in films. It can't always end in climax, and to be honest, I don't want the objective of it to always be climax. I'd like to enjoy my future husband's body for its own sake and not just want my body to experience an orgasm all the time.
So basically, I'd say that touching oneself it's one of life's cheap thrills, but it becomes pretty mundane and it's habit-forming in frustrating ways.
I'll mention as an afterthought that I'm thankful I don't usually feel a need to use images. I wouldn't want to train my brain to associate sex with a particular kind of image or activity, and to only be satisfied with that. I don't want to desensitize myself to things of a mildly sexual nature and then have to progress to increasingly indecent and undignified images in order to get my orgasm 'fix'.
Now, I have tried to be as candid as possible because if you're a real 18-year-old young woman, you deserve frankness. Please remember to treat your own body with dignity and not tolerate any person who disrespects it or tries to push you into anything.
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I see, so it is kind of addicting, becomes a habit. I have never done it and was wondering if it's really so weird since i'm a teenager with hormones and all. I have a best friend of 10 years and i recently told her about it and she was very surprised.It got me thinking if what i described is really that uncommon. I do not feel the need to touch myself even though i sometimes check adult content and get turned on, but it never goes beyond that. I did explain it more in one of my previous comments, so i guess i may define my sexuality as "demisexual" according to the tags in the world these days.
Thank you for your candid reply, it certainly helped me. I don't think I will do anything sexual with anybody until I'm certain of them, and I haven't done anything of sorts so far. I do respect my body and I plan to keep it that way.
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People’s experiences vary and masterbation isn’t addictive for everyone. Some people, myself included, still rarely feel desire to despite knowing our bodies well.
Even if you have no interest in masterbation (which is completely ok) I recommend learning about the different parts of the vulva and vagina just so you are aware of your body.