Thank you for taking your time to properly reply, i do appreciate it really.
Figuring out what works for me down there doesn't really excite me, I don't feel like touching myself when i see adult content, sure i get turned on but it doesn't go any further. I'm thinking maybe it's because it's the idea of me doing it?
I see hot guys and I'm attracted to their bodies, but their appearance never really does the trick for me since I am not attracted to their personality. But if I connect with them on an emotional level, even if they dont have my standards of being "hot" I would be willing to live sexual things with them whereas I wouldn't let a hot guy touch me just because he is hot.
Maybe it's because I find the idea of sexual activity only if it's with someone I have an emotional connection with. I don't think i would be excited to touch myself but the idea of the person i like touching me excites me.
But as you said there isn't a certain answer for it, thank you again for replying.
I'm so ancient that what you describe sounds perfectly normal to me, but I think there's a label you can apply to yourself these days: "Demisexual". There's even an official flag you can carry at Pride Marches, should you feel so inclined. 🙄
If you'd like to try to get a better understanding of your sexuality, you might consider reading "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagosky. She covers a lot of really interesting stuff which has been established by researchers into female sexuality, but isn't yet widely understood by the general public.
I think i'm old fashioned then, yes, what i described is normal for me and you, but for the rest of the world it's not common nowadays unfortunately. People jump in whenever their hormones go wild, and do wild things with people they dont know anything about.
Thank you for your suggestions, if I can, i will try to read the book as well.
IIN that i have never masturbated before?
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Thank you for taking your time to properly reply, i do appreciate it really.
Figuring out what works for me down there doesn't really excite me, I don't feel like touching myself when i see adult content, sure i get turned on but it doesn't go any further. I'm thinking maybe it's because it's the idea of me doing it?
I see hot guys and I'm attracted to their bodies, but their appearance never really does the trick for me since I am not attracted to their personality. But if I connect with them on an emotional level, even if they dont have my standards of being "hot" I would be willing to live sexual things with them whereas I wouldn't let a hot guy touch me just because he is hot.
Maybe it's because I find the idea of sexual activity only if it's with someone I have an emotional connection with. I don't think i would be excited to touch myself but the idea of the person i like touching me excites me.
But as you said there isn't a certain answer for it, thank you again for replying.
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I'm so ancient that what you describe sounds perfectly normal to me, but I think there's a label you can apply to yourself these days: "Demisexual". There's even an official flag you can carry at Pride Marches, should you feel so inclined. 🙄
If you'd like to try to get a better understanding of your sexuality, you might consider reading "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagosky. She covers a lot of really interesting stuff which has been established by researchers into female sexuality, but isn't yet widely understood by the general public.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Come-You-Are-surprising-transform/dp/1925228010/ref=sr_1_1?crid=LLHO3ULPRLUI&dchild=1&keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1627729530&sprefix=come+as+you+%2Caps%2C173&sr=8-1
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I think i'm old fashioned then, yes, what i described is normal for me and you, but for the rest of the world it's not common nowadays unfortunately. People jump in whenever their hormones go wild, and do wild things with people they dont know anything about.
Thank you for your suggestions, if I can, i will try to read the book as well.