There's nothing that says you must masturbate and - in spite of what some religious nutjobs claim - there's no cosmic law that makes masturbating evil, and it is not physically or mentally harmful.
It's your body, and you should feel free to do and not do whatever the hell you want with it.
It seems to me the thing you should be pondering is _why_ you have no interest in masturbating or even touching yourself in a sexual way. Nobody here is going to be able to give you the answer to that question.
Just as women shouldn't be pressured to ignore or be ashamed of any sexual urges they feel, women should not be made to feel weird if they're simply not interested in sex. Maybe your lack of interest is simply how you happen to be wired up in your head. But it's possible that all sorts of messages you've received in various forms from the time you were very small mean that you now feel that you _shouldn't_ feel any sexual urges, and so you don't. It's also possible that those messages have left you feeling that what's between your legs is nasty, and so the very thought of touching yourself there disgusts you.
One thing that's certain is that if you don't know how to give yourself an orgasm, that's going to make it difficult for you to have one when (and if) you have sex with someone else. If you have no understanding of how your own sexual response works and what you need in order to come and you're so sexually inhibited that you have no interest in figuring that out, it is unrealistic to expect that someone else will intuitively understand what you need.
Maybe that matters to you, and maybe it doesn't. It's your choice to make.
Thank you for taking your time to properly reply, i do appreciate it really.
Figuring out what works for me down there doesn't really excite me, I don't feel like touching myself when i see adult content, sure i get turned on but it doesn't go any further. I'm thinking maybe it's because it's the idea of me doing it?
I see hot guys and I'm attracted to their bodies, but their appearance never really does the trick for me since I am not attracted to their personality. But if I connect with them on an emotional level, even if they dont have my standards of being "hot" I would be willing to live sexual things with them whereas I wouldn't let a hot guy touch me just because he is hot.
Maybe it's because I find the idea of sexual activity only if it's with someone I have an emotional connection with. I don't think i would be excited to touch myself but the idea of the person i like touching me excites me.
But as you said there isn't a certain answer for it, thank you again for replying.
I'm so ancient that what you describe sounds perfectly normal to me, but I think there's a label you can apply to yourself these days: "Demisexual". There's even an official flag you can carry at Pride Marches, should you feel so inclined. 🙄
If you'd like to try to get a better understanding of your sexuality, you might consider reading "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagosky. She covers a lot of really interesting stuff which has been established by researchers into female sexuality, but isn't yet widely understood by the general public.
I think i'm old fashioned then, yes, what i described is normal for me and you, but for the rest of the world it's not common nowadays unfortunately. People jump in whenever their hormones go wild, and do wild things with people they dont know anything about.
Thank you for your suggestions, if I can, i will try to read the book as well.
IIN that i have never masturbated before?
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There's nothing that says you must masturbate and - in spite of what some religious nutjobs claim - there's no cosmic law that makes masturbating evil, and it is not physically or mentally harmful.
It's your body, and you should feel free to do and not do whatever the hell you want with it.
It seems to me the thing you should be pondering is _why_ you have no interest in masturbating or even touching yourself in a sexual way. Nobody here is going to be able to give you the answer to that question.
Just as women shouldn't be pressured to ignore or be ashamed of any sexual urges they feel, women should not be made to feel weird if they're simply not interested in sex. Maybe your lack of interest is simply how you happen to be wired up in your head. But it's possible that all sorts of messages you've received in various forms from the time you were very small mean that you now feel that you _shouldn't_ feel any sexual urges, and so you don't. It's also possible that those messages have left you feeling that what's between your legs is nasty, and so the very thought of touching yourself there disgusts you.
One thing that's certain is that if you don't know how to give yourself an orgasm, that's going to make it difficult for you to have one when (and if) you have sex with someone else. If you have no understanding of how your own sexual response works and what you need in order to come and you're so sexually inhibited that you have no interest in figuring that out, it is unrealistic to expect that someone else will intuitively understand what you need.
Maybe that matters to you, and maybe it doesn't. It's your choice to make.
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Thank you for taking your time to properly reply, i do appreciate it really.
Figuring out what works for me down there doesn't really excite me, I don't feel like touching myself when i see adult content, sure i get turned on but it doesn't go any further. I'm thinking maybe it's because it's the idea of me doing it?
I see hot guys and I'm attracted to their bodies, but their appearance never really does the trick for me since I am not attracted to their personality. But if I connect with them on an emotional level, even if they dont have my standards of being "hot" I would be willing to live sexual things with them whereas I wouldn't let a hot guy touch me just because he is hot.
Maybe it's because I find the idea of sexual activity only if it's with someone I have an emotional connection with. I don't think i would be excited to touch myself but the idea of the person i like touching me excites me.
But as you said there isn't a certain answer for it, thank you again for replying.
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I'm so ancient that what you describe sounds perfectly normal to me, but I think there's a label you can apply to yourself these days: "Demisexual". There's even an official flag you can carry at Pride Marches, should you feel so inclined. 🙄
If you'd like to try to get a better understanding of your sexuality, you might consider reading "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagosky. She covers a lot of really interesting stuff which has been established by researchers into female sexuality, but isn't yet widely understood by the general public.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Come-You-Are-surprising-transform/dp/1925228010/ref=sr_1_1?crid=LLHO3ULPRLUI&dchild=1&keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1627729530&sprefix=come+as+you+%2Caps%2C173&sr=8-1
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I think i'm old fashioned then, yes, what i described is normal for me and you, but for the rest of the world it's not common nowadays unfortunately. People jump in whenever their hormones go wild, and do wild things with people they dont know anything about.
Thank you for your suggestions, if I can, i will try to read the book as well.