When I was younger I believed as I had been told ( over and over ) Family was the most importation thing . That they would always be there for you . That when the older relatives were dead and gone it would be my cousins and siblings that would always be there and have my back cause that is what family does . It took me along time to understand I had been lied to . Not all families act like this . Some families will stab each other in the back for even a small gain . Others just don't care to have you much in their day to day life. Then their are the ones that like to play head games with each other or even beat each other up or worse . Almost no one will tell you that you can walk away from toxic people and not allow them to keep hurting you over and over . Even when they are family . Some families don't seem to know how to care about each other . It's very hard to teach something you weren't taught while you were growing up, to your children . It sounds like this is what may have happened in your family . I hope you can over come it and break the chain .
I can see your point. Yes some families betray one another. Unstable household, greedy parents or siblings or other relatives is enough go make you feel like you don't love them. And maybe you don't. But there is always that sense of "family" you feel. I can agree with you on that part though
Over the years I have tried to love them but I never could, I do want to move on, but you can't really do that when your 13 and have no other choice but to live with the people who have spoiled your life. I just wish I could forget them, although at this point my friends are my family, even if they don't know it
Is it normal that i have never felt love towards my family?
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When I was younger I believed as I had been told ( over and over ) Family was the most importation thing . That they would always be there for you . That when the older relatives were dead and gone it would be my cousins and siblings that would always be there and have my back cause that is what family does . It took me along time to understand I had been lied to . Not all families act like this . Some families will stab each other in the back for even a small gain . Others just don't care to have you much in their day to day life. Then their are the ones that like to play head games with each other or even beat each other up or worse . Almost no one will tell you that you can walk away from toxic people and not allow them to keep hurting you over and over . Even when they are family . Some families don't seem to know how to care about each other . It's very hard to teach something you weren't taught while you were growing up, to your children . It sounds like this is what may have happened in your family . I hope you can over come it and break the chain .
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I can see your point. Yes some families betray one another. Unstable household, greedy parents or siblings or other relatives is enough go make you feel like you don't love them. And maybe you don't. But there is always that sense of "family" you feel. I can agree with you on that part though
Over the years I have tried to love them but I never could, I do want to move on, but you can't really do that when your 13 and have no other choice but to live with the people who have spoiled your life. I just wish I could forget them, although at this point my friends are my family, even if they don't know it