Is it normal that i have hated my dad since i was 13?

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I have hated my dad since I was 13. I am 18 now. He isn't even my real dad, he's my adopted dad but he makes everyone call him my real dad instead of step dad. He has ever since he became a part of my life (I was 4) I have never met my biological dad because my mom had sex with him to have me, and she got rid of all records of him. I ran away from home twice after I got arrested for posession of marijuana when I was 13. Then he started treating me like shit, so I started hating him. Whenever I talked to him back then, he always brought up something to lecture me about for no reason. Complete and total dick, never did a nice thing for me after the weed bust. What do I do?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Maybe he was just trying to keep you in check. with the dad calling thing maybe he wanted you to look to him as your father. At least he didn't abuse you

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  • tugchug
    11 years ago | pl

    Stepfathers typically initially assume a polite, nondisciplinarian role in stepfamilies partly because stepchildren (especially stepdaughters) tend to reject stepfathers' attempts at discipline. Eventually, stepfathers and stepdaughters may become involved in conflict focused on the stepfathers' authority. Consequently, stepfathers often become less supportive, less positive, and less involved in discipline than fathers in intact families. Stepfathers' disengagement from parenting is associated with poor child and adolescent adjustment. The most positive outcomes occur with younger children (especially boys) when the stepfather initially forms a warm relationship with the child and supports the mother's discipline, and later begins to provide authoritative discipline (warmth with moderate control). Early adolescents adjust best when stepfathers begin immediately to establish a warm, supportive relationship with moderate amounts of control.

    Read more: Stepfamilies - What Affects Children's And Adolescents' Adjustment To Stepfamilies? - Stepfathers, Mothers, Relationship, and Parents - JRank Articles http://social.jrank.org/pages/613/Stepfamilies-What-Affects-Children-s-Adolescents-Adjustment-Stepfamilies.html#ixzz1gx6U4Wyt

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  • Justanotherone
    12 years ago | pl

    It sounds like he cares for you, its a good thing that he took on the roll of your father and sees you as his son and not his step son! Every good parent wants to help their child keep to the right track and not mess up their lives by making bad decisions. You may feel mature and able to make your own decisions at 18 but trust me, you still have a lot of growing up to do.

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  • ThEsIcKnEsS
    12 years ago | pl

    I have hated my dad ever sence I was about 8 or 9

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  • pansyfugufish
    12 years ago | pl

    Its normal to hate your parents at that age... its an evolutionary quality: ex: if you hate your parents you wont breed with them, thus there will be a better genetic pool. it doesnt matter that yor arent blood.
    Also, why are you getting arrested for weed? That sounds dumb. you should be glad your dad cares enought to bother punishing you.

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