i am curious why you think it's your job to provide this constructive criticism to everyone? just because you have thoughts about someone or something, doesn't mean you have to share them all the time.
sounds to me like your problem is more with boundaries and if you limited your thoughts to those who likely value your opinion, maybe your criticism would be received in a more positive light.
unless you really are just an asshole who thinks everyone actually cares what you think, then never mind.
1) don't feel obligated to be careful with what you say, but understand you may offend people.
2) try working on saying things differently so that you can still provide constructive criticism, that is actually constructive.
if they continually ask for your opinion, knowing how you typically respond, then it's their own fault if they get upset. however, you could work on your approach if you're really all that concerned about how people take the things you say. especially if it's someone you actually care about.
try this trick: say your third thought, not your first.
IIN that I have been learning empathy skills from the internet.
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i am curious why you think it's your job to provide this constructive criticism to everyone? just because you have thoughts about someone or something, doesn't mean you have to share them all the time.
sounds to me like your problem is more with boundaries and if you limited your thoughts to those who likely value your opinion, maybe your criticism would be received in a more positive light.
unless you really are just an asshole who thinks everyone actually cares what you think, then never mind.
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For example often people will ask for an opinion only to not like it.
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then I guess you have two choices:
1) don't feel obligated to be careful with what you say, but understand you may offend people.
2) try working on saying things differently so that you can still provide constructive criticism, that is actually constructive.
if they continually ask for your opinion, knowing how you typically respond, then it's their own fault if they get upset. however, you could work on your approach if you're really all that concerned about how people take the things you say. especially if it's someone you actually care about.
try this trick: say your third thought, not your first.