Is it normal that i have a girlfriend but have a crush on a man?

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I'm a woman and I've had a girlfriend for over four years now. I truly love her, I'm happy with her and I want to spend my life with her. I've also spent the last four years trying very hard to make my friends and family comfortable with the idea of me being a lesbian and I think they're finally all OK with it now.
So here's the problem: I was never an overly-sexual person, the only one who ever really got me "in the mood" was my girlfriend, but recently I became very good friends with a man who has a great personality and who I also find sexually attractive, I might even have a crush on him. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm betraying my girlfriend and myself in some way. I'm not in any way involved with him and I don't want to be, but should I tell my girlfriend or anyone else about my crush? Is it worth explaining to anyone that I might not be "as gay as I thought" after all?
Thanks for the help :)

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Based on 15 votes (8 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    It's possible that you might be bisexual. However, just because you might be bisexual doesn't mean that you ought to explore your feelings for this man. In fact, if you are in a monogamous relationship with your partner the right thing to do about your attraction to this man would be to do nothing at all. Infidelity is betrayal, and your feelings towards an attractive stranger are not facts, or would those feelings be an excuse to betray your partner.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Open relationships are the best way to avoid complications. Just be honest about it and don’t try to hide anything. It’s your life and your happiness. You please you!

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  • Orphan
    1 year ago

    Tell tour girlfriend about jt. If u dont want to do anything with this guy dont.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    4 years ago

    It's normal to crush on someone else while in a relationship. As long as you don't act on it, you'll be fine.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    I would discuss an open relationship with your girlfriend if the urge comes off too bad. If she is appealed by the fact that you are actually bisexual, than that could be an issue. It's up to you mate but at least consider discussing an open relationship. If you ask me, those are the best kind of relationship anyway.

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  • WeirdDudeFromTheSouth
    4 years ago

    Idk man if you like the guy ask your girlfriend if yall can do an open relationship or you can bring him into the bedroom with both of yall.

    Dont let people guilt you into being gay tho. Just do what u want.

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