is it normal that i have 3 side baes and a main bae?

I am most glad that you gave an translation for this "bae". I thought that you meant "bees". I didn't understand why you would have three bees on the side and one main bee. Think about it this way, sex with a be could result in pain, raised lumps, and sometimes even death. This can also happen when you are cheating on your partner without his knowledge. People have been killed over the revelation of cheating. If you aren't making sure that your partners are std free, you could get one (itchy red raised lumps). You could also pass these stds to others if you have one. Not only can stds be painful, but having affairs can be very emotionally painful in general. By breaking your partner and side partner(s)- (that is if they don't know about your other men) trust, you can break their hearts.