"How are you" isn't supposed to be a conversation starter. For most folks it's the same as saying "hello". And saying "fine" is the correct answer no matter how you actualy are. It's part of being polite. When we meet we say "hello" to each other to acknowledge each others existence more than for any other reason. "how are you" means that we care. Small talk means we want to share with and entertain each other. It's somewhat insincere sometimes, which is probably why you get annoyed.
Don't take it so hard. This is not the only weird thing that people say and do.
is it normal that I hate the how are you question
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"How are you" isn't supposed to be a conversation starter. For most folks it's the same as saying "hello". And saying "fine" is the correct answer no matter how you actualy are. It's part of being polite. When we meet we say "hello" to each other to acknowledge each others existence more than for any other reason. "how are you" means that we care. Small talk means we want to share with and entertain each other. It's somewhat insincere sometimes, which is probably why you get annoyed.
Don't take it so hard. This is not the only weird thing that people say and do.