If porn doesn't work for you, that's fine, but I don't think it's normal to care about whether or not it works for your partner. There's nothing inherently unhealthy, corrupting or even immoral about porn. I could almost understand where the dislike for certain fetishes might come into a relationship, but so heatedly disliking standard, straight, by-the-numbers porn? Abnormal.
Are you insecure about it? Do you feel like he's comparing you to the actresses? Unless there's any actual evidence of that beyond the viewing of porn, that's your issue to work through, not his, and it's one you desperately need to handle, because you're likely to find other things (models, magazine covers, other women in the street) just as distressing.
It's very important to be sexually compatible with your partner. This is a make-or-break question for your relationship, whether you know it yet or not. Like NeuroNeptunian said, you should either work this out or find someone sexually conservative like you. Though it's likely to be a difficult task these days, with porn's ubiquity.
I mean I don't have an insecurity problem, but I'm sixth months pregnant and my body is changing to carry a baby. Now that I think about it, it may be that I look at myself and then the perfectly fit, naked women who have bodies men die for and believe that I'm becoming unattractive. Maybe this feeling will go away after the baby gets here and I get my body back? Anyways, thanks for your comment, you put it into perspective for me.
Sorry didnt notice the reply before i posted. Dont feel bad - youre going to give him one of the most wonderful things in this world soon! He couldnt get that without you. I think because of that no porn actress could ever compare to you. Ive heard some men are scared of hurting the baby or teir wife during pregnancy and stop having sex entirely. Your situation is not abnormal, and i dont think that in this case porn is substituting you!
Is it normal that I hate the fact that my boyfriend likes porn?
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If porn doesn't work for you, that's fine, but I don't think it's normal to care about whether or not it works for your partner. There's nothing inherently unhealthy, corrupting or even immoral about porn. I could almost understand where the dislike for certain fetishes might come into a relationship, but so heatedly disliking standard, straight, by-the-numbers porn? Abnormal.
Are you insecure about it? Do you feel like he's comparing you to the actresses? Unless there's any actual evidence of that beyond the viewing of porn, that's your issue to work through, not his, and it's one you desperately need to handle, because you're likely to find other things (models, magazine covers, other women in the street) just as distressing.
It's very important to be sexually compatible with your partner. This is a make-or-break question for your relationship, whether you know it yet or not. Like NeuroNeptunian said, you should either work this out or find someone sexually conservative like you. Though it's likely to be a difficult task these days, with porn's ubiquity.
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I mean I don't have an insecurity problem, but I'm sixth months pregnant and my body is changing to carry a baby. Now that I think about it, it may be that I look at myself and then the perfectly fit, naked women who have bodies men die for and believe that I'm becoming unattractive. Maybe this feeling will go away after the baby gets here and I get my body back? Anyways, thanks for your comment, you put it into perspective for me.
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Sorry didnt notice the reply before i posted. Dont feel bad - youre going to give him one of the most wonderful things in this world soon! He couldnt get that without you. I think because of that no porn actress could ever compare to you. Ive heard some men are scared of hurting the baby or teir wife during pregnancy and stop having sex entirely. Your situation is not abnormal, and i dont think that in this case porn is substituting you!
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Thanks so much, very uplifting! Definitely makes me feel a bit better about my situation :)