As long as you do not make your children feel that pressure, or the inner-disappointment you have when they don't achieve that ideal. Because ideals often play a bigger part in our lives than we like to think.
Such is what happens when we fail to identify our ideals as that: ideals. Living on the notion that an ideal is anything but an ideal is the cause of much misery in any person, regardless of their beliefs.
And to answer your original question, I want at least one boy. Just because, really. Granted if I had a daughter that was a tomboy, I wouldn't mind that either. Hopefully I will get lucky and end up with at least one kid that likes to play rough.
I'm not going to bar words here, feminine little girly girls are not exactly my ideal when it comes to daughters, my husband would like daughters, but I'm more of a rough play kind of parent. I am capable of being sensitive and sympathetic towards daughters, and I'm sure I'd adapt, but being that I don't have kids yet, it's just fun to think about playing rough and being hands on with my kids as opposed to having to sit through a tea party and having to goo-goo the kid to stop crying when they harmlessly fall down (certainly not what I was used to when raising my brother), regardless of gender.
But like I said, just an ideal... *sigh* I don't know about the people that you have met, and I think you are placing too much value on what really is just an ideal, but I've spent a good amount of my life accepting that things may not always be the way I want them and in some cases it is better that way. Honestly, if you are going to keep pushing the case that I am going to be a terrible parent simply because of the ideals I have for how I'd like a family, regardless of my telling you that it is not what I believe what a family should be, then I'll leave you to do it. My parenting skills have not and do not reflect my ideals because my ideals are simply that, ideals. Reality and what is dreamed up in my mind are two different things.
And I understand that. Idealistic parents that see their ideals as practical don't. There's your differentiation.
Is it normal that I hate pregnant couples that want a boy?
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I'm not going to bar words here, feminine little girly girls are not exactly my ideal when it comes to daughters, my husband would like daughters, but I'm more of a rough play kind of parent. I am capable of being sensitive and sympathetic towards daughters, and I'm sure I'd adapt, but being that I don't have kids yet, it's just fun to think about playing rough and being hands on with my kids as opposed to having to sit through a tea party and having to goo-goo the kid to stop crying when they harmlessly fall down (certainly not what I was used to when raising my brother), regardless of gender.
But like I said, just an ideal... *sigh* I don't know about the people that you have met, and I think you are placing too much value on what really is just an ideal, but I've spent a good amount of my life accepting that things may not always be the way I want them and in some cases it is better that way. Honestly, if you are going to keep pushing the case that I am going to be a terrible parent simply because of the ideals I have for how I'd like a family, regardless of my telling you that it is not what I believe what a family should be, then I'll leave you to do it. My parenting skills have not and do not reflect my ideals because my ideals are simply that, ideals. Reality and what is dreamed up in my mind are two different things.
And I understand that. Idealistic parents that see their ideals as practical don't. There's your differentiation.
I think "ideal" is a strong word as it is.
You have a good chance of leaning on those ideals to run your household.