I want a boy as my first born. I will immediately stress to him the importance of physical health and well being while at the same time providing him with a good education, or at least supplementing public school. I will teach him chivalry and patriotic values of honor and valor. I will have him do martial arts, boxing, or some other form of fighting techniques in order to build his physique. He shall be what an ideal Marine would be.
So when my daughter comes along he can ensure that she doesn't get laid until she is married, and the man she marries will be of equal of greater awesomeness than my son.
Call me an idealist and I will say that you are correct.
^This is what happens when you take the internet WAAAAY too seriously.
My gender role reinforcing ass, me being a women and going to college, working outside of the home and taking control of my body by use of birth control so I may delay childbirth until I am in a good financial situation. Why don't you spank me for my naughtiness :(
I called myself an idealist because I understand that the big brother defending the little sister stereotype is to be treated just as that, an ideal. Not a practice to put into works but an ideal. I'll say it again: an IDEAL.
Speaking of ignorant punks, when you edit to throw in a few more self-empowering insults my way, remember to delete the html paragraph breaks. But you tried, pat on the back for you! Yaaay!
Now before I start editing in paragraphs about the irony of you calling me an ignorant punk being that you seem to lack understanding of what it means when a person points out their thoughts as idealistic, I'll bid you good day and I hope you feel empowered now :)
That's just the problem. When parents start setting "ideals" for kids based on gender, those children are then restricted from possibly being something they want. They're now bound to something they think is "right".
That is the negative side effect of thinking that an ideal is something one should put into practice. These are parents that do not see their thoughts as ideals but rather what it HAS to be. Try to ask any of these parents if they see themselves as idealistic in any way for putting such gender role dependent teachings into practice... I can almost guarentee you that the majority of them don't see themselves as idealists but genuinely right.
I identify my thoughts as ideals and they are just that, IDEALS. I'd like to have a son that is protective of his younger sister and has the physical prowess to pull that off, but that is an IDEAL, and simply an ideal. The reality is, it is the job of my husband and myself to ensure that my daughter makes proper decisions regarding her health and happiness and if I were to ignore that fact then I would truly be worthy of being called an "ignorant punk".
As long as you do not make your children feel that pressure, or the inner-disappointment you have when they don't achieve that ideal. Because ideals often play a bigger part in our lives than we like to think.
Such is what happens when we fail to identify our ideals as that: ideals. Living on the notion that an ideal is anything but an ideal is the cause of much misery in any person, regardless of their beliefs.
And to answer your original question, I want at least one boy. Just because, really. Granted if I had a daughter that was a tomboy, I wouldn't mind that either. Hopefully I will get lucky and end up with at least one kid that likes to play rough.
Is it normal that I hate pregnant couples that want a boy?
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I want a boy as my first born. I will immediately stress to him the importance of physical health and well being while at the same time providing him with a good education, or at least supplementing public school. I will teach him chivalry and patriotic values of honor and valor. I will have him do martial arts, boxing, or some other form of fighting techniques in order to build his physique. He shall be what an ideal Marine would be.
So when my daughter comes along he can ensure that she doesn't get laid until she is married, and the man she marries will be of equal of greater awesomeness than my son.
Call me an idealist and I will say that you are correct.
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No, you're not an idealist. You're an ignorant punk who believes in gender roles.
Because of you, any daughter you may have will grow up thinking she has to be a certain way to be feminine and loved. "My little princess".
Because of you, any son you may have will grow up thinking he needs to "man up" and be strong to receive respect and love from his family.
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^This is what happens when you take the internet WAAAAY too seriously.
My gender role reinforcing ass, me being a women and going to college, working outside of the home and taking control of my body by use of birth control so I may delay childbirth until I am in a good financial situation. Why don't you spank me for my naughtiness :(
I called myself an idealist because I understand that the big brother defending the little sister stereotype is to be treated just as that, an ideal. Not a practice to put into works but an ideal. I'll say it again: an IDEAL.
Speaking of ignorant punks, when you edit to throw in a few more self-empowering insults my way, remember to delete the html paragraph breaks. But you tried, pat on the back for you! Yaaay!
Now before I start editing in paragraphs about the irony of you calling me an ignorant punk being that you seem to lack understanding of what it means when a person points out their thoughts as idealistic, I'll bid you good day and I hope you feel empowered now :)
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That's just the problem. When parents start setting "ideals" for kids based on gender, those children are then restricted from possibly being something they want. They're now bound to something they think is "right".
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That is the negative side effect of thinking that an ideal is something one should put into practice. These are parents that do not see their thoughts as ideals but rather what it HAS to be. Try to ask any of these parents if they see themselves as idealistic in any way for putting such gender role dependent teachings into practice... I can almost guarentee you that the majority of them don't see themselves as idealists but genuinely right.
I identify my thoughts as ideals and they are just that, IDEALS. I'd like to have a son that is protective of his younger sister and has the physical prowess to pull that off, but that is an IDEAL, and simply an ideal. The reality is, it is the job of my husband and myself to ensure that my daughter makes proper decisions regarding her health and happiness and if I were to ignore that fact then I would truly be worthy of being called an "ignorant punk".
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As long as you do not make your children feel that pressure, or the inner-disappointment you have when they don't achieve that ideal. Because ideals often play a bigger part in our lives than we like to think.
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Such is what happens when we fail to identify our ideals as that: ideals. Living on the notion that an ideal is anything but an ideal is the cause of much misery in any person, regardless of their beliefs.
And to answer your original question, I want at least one boy. Just because, really. Granted if I had a daughter that was a tomboy, I wouldn't mind that either. Hopefully I will get lucky and end up with at least one kid that likes to play rough.