I am glad I read this I thought I might be the only person that had extreme dislike for my bf child. I am even going to therapy to help me sort out why I dislike this kid so much. Here is one of the resons my therapist says I don't like him...I have diagnosed adhd and he has in my therapists opinion is (as yet undiagnosed) adhd. She says that often two people with adhd butt heads and can't get along.
She also thinks that I sometimes displace my negative feelings that I sometimes have about my bf (like when we fight) onto the child. She says in life there are going to be people that rub you the wrong way no matter what age they are.
She also thinks that some of the things he does ar done to get my attention however what he does annoys me and pushes a wedge further in between him and I. She said that he wants my attention but doesnt know how to, I dont think he knows how annoying he is being.
He does someone of the stuff that redhead1 said her bf daughter does....stares, talks constantly, eats a lot but is skinny but I dont like watching him eat he looks like a squirrel that just filled its cheeks with nuts. He used to chew with his mouth open but that problem has been corrected for the most part. He dances around a lot, and likes to jump and smack the ceiling. He also listens in on his dad and my conversations and asks questions or makes comments about what he hears.
When I first met my bf and heard about his kid I wanted to be a mother to his kid but now I question whether I can stay with his dad because i dislike his son.
My therapist wants my to feel sorry for him instead of dislike him so much...I am trying but its not easy. What makes it harder is that his dad doesnt see any problem with his son. I have dated other guys with kids and have never disliked a kid other than this one. I don't know if his dad would ever put him on adhd meds but I think it would help.
I know I talked a lot about myself in this comment but I hope that in doing so the orginal writer of this question will realize they arent the only person to feel the way they do. And hopefully by mentioning the reasons my therapist says I dont like my bf son will give you an idea why you may not like your gf kid.
i'm in the same boat. not in therapy, although i do know why i hate this kid. he's everything i hate about people in general he gives me anxiety attacks by his mere presents- he's so loud and rambunctious and rude and doesn't listen and he lies, the food thing you mentioned? yeah, he nibbles like a mouse then throws a tantrum yells no no and screams while he's crying when you just ask him to try something new.... the list goes on and on and he's everything i do not want my son to be and everything my daughter will never be and has never been( she's the same age). I push people like that completely out of my life, the ones that give me such negative thoughts but, now I have a baby with his dad and i resent the fact that i'm bound to kid forever to the point of pure and utter hatred.
Is it normal that I hate my gf's kid?
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I am glad I read this I thought I might be the only person that had extreme dislike for my bf child. I am even going to therapy to help me sort out why I dislike this kid so much. Here is one of the resons my therapist says I don't like him...I have diagnosed adhd and he has in my therapists opinion is (as yet undiagnosed) adhd. She says that often two people with adhd butt heads and can't get along.
She also thinks that I sometimes displace my negative feelings that I sometimes have about my bf (like when we fight) onto the child. She says in life there are going to be people that rub you the wrong way no matter what age they are.
She also thinks that some of the things he does ar done to get my attention however what he does annoys me and pushes a wedge further in between him and I. She said that he wants my attention but doesnt know how to, I dont think he knows how annoying he is being.
He does someone of the stuff that redhead1 said her bf daughter does....stares, talks constantly, eats a lot but is skinny but I dont like watching him eat he looks like a squirrel that just filled its cheeks with nuts. He used to chew with his mouth open but that problem has been corrected for the most part. He dances around a lot, and likes to jump and smack the ceiling. He also listens in on his dad and my conversations and asks questions or makes comments about what he hears.
When I first met my bf and heard about his kid I wanted to be a mother to his kid but now I question whether I can stay with his dad because i dislike his son.
My therapist wants my to feel sorry for him instead of dislike him so much...I am trying but its not easy. What makes it harder is that his dad doesnt see any problem with his son. I have dated other guys with kids and have never disliked a kid other than this one. I don't know if his dad would ever put him on adhd meds but I think it would help.
I know I talked a lot about myself in this comment but I hope that in doing so the orginal writer of this question will realize they arent the only person to feel the way they do. And hopefully by mentioning the reasons my therapist says I dont like my bf son will give you an idea why you may not like your gf kid.
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i'm in the same boat. not in therapy, although i do know why i hate this kid. he's everything i hate about people in general he gives me anxiety attacks by his mere presents- he's so loud and rambunctious and rude and doesn't listen and he lies, the food thing you mentioned? yeah, he nibbles like a mouse then throws a tantrum yells no no and screams while he's crying when you just ask him to try something new.... the list goes on and on and he's everything i do not want my son to be and everything my daughter will never be and has never been( she's the same age). I push people like that completely out of my life, the ones that give me such negative thoughts but, now I have a baby with his dad and i resent the fact that i'm bound to kid forever to the point of pure and utter hatred.