After I found this forum, I realized that I am not alone. My gf has a 4 year old son that I have a strong dislike over a period of time When my gf and I started dating, the kid was quiet and behaved. When I met my gf's parents, they kept harping to me how their grandson, my gf's son, is "such a good boy." But when my gf asks her parents to watch her son for a day because she has to work, they get very pissy at her. As the time went on, and the kid became used to being around me, his misbehaving started to come to the surface. He wakes up around 5 am every morning, he starts screeching and crying, then he comes to lay in bed with my gf and I. He starts doing cartwheels in bed, then he's hungry, then he wants to watch TV, and he wants his mommy to accompany him everywhere. My girlfriend has crappy parenting skills, in fact, I can't call those parenting skills. When she tells her son to do something, or to stop doing something, it's as if she is asking him, instead of telling him "pick up your toys and get ready for bed, okay?" In response, her son screeches out a prolonged, high-pitched "noooooo" followed by whimpering. Or he starts arguing with my gf. And instead of just telling her son "NO" or "STOP", my gf and her son exchange arguments or excuses. And when my gf has the nads to put her son in time out, he starts screaming and screeching and stomping his feet on the floor. I was raised in a very strict family, so I like to have my shit tight and organized. It makes my blood boil when I see a 4 year old argue with his mother, and my gf getting frustrated at her son, yet not do anything about it. My gf doesn't believe in spanking her child, due to the way she was raised. She says that she doesn't want her son to be afraid of her. He always has to be first or get something first, otherwise he has a meltdown. If he falls on the ground while playing outside, he wails until his mother comes to the rescue. The other day I came home to see my gf in tears after her son finally fell asleep after a two-hour long tantrum. She said that no matter what she tried to do or offer, her son would not stop screaming at he top of his lungs, laying on the floor, and kicking his arms and legs. Not only do I resent my gf's son, but I am beginning to resent and distance myself from my gf. The last thing I want to do when I come home from work is listen to stupid cartoons, a loud mouth child that constantly needs his mommmy's validation, and seeing the two of them argue. The kid watches cartoons all day, from the time he wakes up, till he goes to bed. He doesn't want to eat a meal, instead, he wants a "fnak" all day long, and leave half eaten yogurt cartons all over the place. The one that really erks me out, is a 4 year old that eats food with his fingers. I mean...for fuck's sake, it's like parents have no clue that toddlers have dirty hands, let's be blind and let a 4 year old eat with his hands, so that he can get a stomach bug and shit his brains out for a week. At this point, I can't say that I love my gf, I don't feel the fire, lust, and passion that I used to when I met her 7.5 months ago. I just feel sorry for her, and I want to move out. But I don't know how to tell my gf that the reason I want to leave is her son. I don't want to destroy her self esteem as a mother, and have her resent her own child because he is the reason that our relationship is falling apart. I just finished college, and I make decent money. Even though my gf and I split rent and bills, I know that there is no way she would be able to pay everything on her own, and I don't think her parents want her to move in with her son, because I have a feeling they know that he's a little, whiny pussy who will make their life hell. And I don't want to stay in this situation forever either. Please help. I'm starting to feel depressed.
Is it normal that I hate my gf's kid?
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After I found this forum, I realized that I am not alone. My gf has a 4 year old son that I have a strong dislike over a period of time When my gf and I started dating, the kid was quiet and behaved. When I met my gf's parents, they kept harping to me how their grandson, my gf's son, is "such a good boy." But when my gf asks her parents to watch her son for a day because she has to work, they get very pissy at her. As the time went on, and the kid became used to being around me, his misbehaving started to come to the surface. He wakes up around 5 am every morning, he starts screeching and crying, then he comes to lay in bed with my gf and I. He starts doing cartwheels in bed, then he's hungry, then he wants to watch TV, and he wants his mommy to accompany him everywhere. My girlfriend has crappy parenting skills, in fact, I can't call those parenting skills. When she tells her son to do something, or to stop doing something, it's as if she is asking him, instead of telling him "pick up your toys and get ready for bed, okay?" In response, her son screeches out a prolonged, high-pitched "noooooo" followed by whimpering. Or he starts arguing with my gf. And instead of just telling her son "NO" or "STOP", my gf and her son exchange arguments or excuses. And when my gf has the nads to put her son in time out, he starts screaming and screeching and stomping his feet on the floor. I was raised in a very strict family, so I like to have my shit tight and organized. It makes my blood boil when I see a 4 year old argue with his mother, and my gf getting frustrated at her son, yet not do anything about it. My gf doesn't believe in spanking her child, due to the way she was raised. She says that she doesn't want her son to be afraid of her. He always has to be first or get something first, otherwise he has a meltdown. If he falls on the ground while playing outside, he wails until his mother comes to the rescue. The other day I came home to see my gf in tears after her son finally fell asleep after a two-hour long tantrum. She said that no matter what she tried to do or offer, her son would not stop screaming at he top of his lungs, laying on the floor, and kicking his arms and legs. Not only do I resent my gf's son, but I am beginning to resent and distance myself from my gf. The last thing I want to do when I come home from work is listen to stupid cartoons, a loud mouth child that constantly needs his mommmy's validation, and seeing the two of them argue. The kid watches cartoons all day, from the time he wakes up, till he goes to bed. He doesn't want to eat a meal, instead, he wants a "fnak" all day long, and leave half eaten yogurt cartons all over the place. The one that really erks me out, is a 4 year old that eats food with his fingers. I mean...for fuck's sake, it's like parents have no clue that toddlers have dirty hands, let's be blind and let a 4 year old eat with his hands, so that he can get a stomach bug and shit his brains out for a week. At this point, I can't say that I love my gf, I don't feel the fire, lust, and passion that I used to when I met her 7.5 months ago. I just feel sorry for her, and I want to move out. But I don't know how to tell my gf that the reason I want to leave is her son. I don't want to destroy her self esteem as a mother, and have her resent her own child because he is the reason that our relationship is falling apart. I just finished college, and I make decent money. Even though my gf and I split rent and bills, I know that there is no way she would be able to pay everything on her own, and I don't think her parents want her to move in with her son, because I have a feeling they know that he's a little, whiny pussy who will make their life hell. And I don't want to stay in this situation forever either. Please help. I'm starting to feel depressed.