Is it normal that i hate it when people are attracted to me?

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No, seriously.

When I'm talking to someone, a friend or an acquaintance, and realize that they're attracted to me, I dislike it. A lot. I'll distance myself from them emotionally, but I've never understood why. Perhaps I have a few unearthed trust issues; maybe I'm afraid to get hurt and am trying to protect myself?

This has even happened with someone that I was actually attracted to. In high-school, I really liked this one guy, we talked a few times, had one class together and got along, but when he started to hint at the fact that he liked me, I was terrified and distanced myself. I stopped being attracted to him, and kept to myself even more.

When I realized what an asshole I was being, I fought against it, and started talking with him again - although, I immediately stated that I wasn't looking for a relationship. //which I wasn't, but still

That's when I discovered that trait about myself; and I worry how it might affect me in the future. It sounds like a fine recipe for a sex deprived, lonely future. //facepalm

Is it normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    12 years ago | pl

    I think you're normal because I've experienced that too. I feel annoyed, irritated, and sometimes angry, when guys (and occasionally girls) think that just because you're nice/polite/friendly to them that there's something more going on. I've tried being nice to them about it, but showing them any kindness only seems to encourage them. I think it's best to avoid them until they can get themselves under control again.

    Plus, there's always the safety issue too. I once had a coworker who was laid off, and on his last day, he professed his love for me and that he had a 2-yr crush on me. This guy wasn't even on my friend radar, let alone potential boyfriend material. I was gobsmacked and couldn't think of anything to say. He was furious that I didn't reciprocate his feelings, then he punched a wall! WTF! What a psycho!

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  • imtherealpandabear
    12 years ago | pl

    Maybe anxiety?

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  • timebobbu
    12 years ago | pl

    I wouldnt say it be sex deprived :P but oc you will be a lonely hole of a person :P

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago | pl

    It's not normal. But idk why it's happening or how to fix it, unfortunately.

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox
    12 years ago | pl

    im like that too, even if i like them. maybe you dont like being tied down?

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  • Mel_287
    12 years ago | pl

    I feel like that too sometimes, I think its just the curse of flesh, people can't stop themselves and some really only do think about calming their innate loneliness.

    I've been on both sides... More so the opposing, if anyone has to navigate a fog of perversion anything like mine before they draw meaning, its no wonder that's all they can think about. I think most of us are alone inside ourselves because we aren't whole and constantly looking for another half. We're ultimately alone because we don't know ourselves.

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  • chicken471bologna
    12 years ago | pl

    Idk if its normal but I feel the same way at time.

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