Is it normal that i hate being praised for simple things?

I hate being praised for things I find simple, or not that hard to do. For example, at church, people (Specifically my dad and older adults) praise me whenever I read the lessons in front of the nave. Or when I'm in the chorus at the high school musical, and appearing in the minimal amount of numbers possible and having no lines and being in the back most of the time, my family still praises me.

Now, if I was the LEAD, or had a major part in a musical, that would be one thing. Or if I was one of the speakers at my graduation, I would accept being praised.

With my family, anything I do is wonderful. Hearing praise from them loses its meaning. When I hear it from a peer that I barely talk to, or someone I know, then it means more to me, because I feel like they really mean it.

It may sound petty and stupid, but I rarely do anything that requires any amount of praise. So when I do get praise from things I find small, then I get annoyed. My mom tells me to get over it, but I can't. I actually don't really know anyone else who feels this way about being "praised"... IIN?

Is It Normal?
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  • Normal. That kind of praise just feels patronizing. I suggest you give them something to really praise you for.

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  • I feel weird about people congratulating me on simple things too especially since i sometimes get yelled at for having a hard time with things and crying because i'm so stressed about school

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  • Yes, that is normal. They just want to be proud of you. Do something really impressive and live up to their praise.

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  • It might be because you have such high standards. Or because you're a little bit frustrated you don't do "bigger" things?
    I feel this way sometimes, even when it comes to grades. You become so good at these things that when you someone praises you, you're like "eh".

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  • yup sounds patronizing

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